How do we as addicts, talk to our kids?

[savingmysoul]

I have been with this forum for several months now - battling my addiction.  Successfully I would say - almost 9 months with no relapses, no urges, nothing.
I am 45, married with two children - a daughter almost 17 and a son 13.

Most of you know my story - and the damage that I have done to my family. 

While we are all so busy worried about putting our own lives back together, repair and heal relationships - my next question is how do you talk to your kids about the dangers of pornography in both a way that will be constructive and yet in a way that they don't draw a connection to the issues mom and dad are having?

Is there a site for assistance?  Has anyone any stories to share on what they did, what worked well, what didnt?  Where can I find information?

My assumption is at this point, this isnt an issue for my children, but I don't really know - I want to get to them before the porn does.  Forgive me, but I am a smart guy and it got to me!  After sharing with so many of you all, I know it can get to anyone.  We know things now that we didn't know then.  You have seen the shocking statistics - the largest group of males consuming ED meds are late teens and early 20's!  My responsibility to repair my life does not stop with me and my marriage - I need to protect my children!

Anyone have any thoughts, or stories to share?

 

[mouchas]

? wanted to share my toughts as i also want to keep others away from this bad addiction. Children at that age will discover about this world first from their friends in  school. You need to make same converstions before hand. My father warned me about  staying too long in  the shower at that age, he  explined the reason in a second conversaton. ? believe you need to explain a natural world is more healty than artificial in every way, tell them to prefer talking  face to face instead of  telephone or chatting. And at last go into the subject of  artificial sex and why harmful.
? am not so clever or experienced to give advice but i do remeber everthing my father has transfered to me emotionally. No other person or site can protect them rather than your voice in their hearth. Same for driving, friends, drugs and other dangers.

 

[OSS]

On phone so I can't type anything elaborate. But from an 18 y/os perspective I'm not sure anything other than the warning of PIED would get most my <age to listen. As for your daughter I think mental issues such as anxiety,  depression and derealization (I believe PA heavily contributed) would get her attention the most.

Now that you've got their attention provide education of the recent studies and studies correalating gray matter vol, mental health, libido etc maybe some anecdotes of "my life months ago vs now recovered"