A fresh new start for me.

kalia

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hello guys. im 20 years old. studying engineering. I sometimes get erection problems when im with girls with small breasts. last week when i was searching it, i found out yourbrainonporn.com, so i decided to quit watching porn. i've started to go to gym again. hitting heavier weights. but i also have video game addiction. it's like my fav. hobby. I've started my journey on last friday. havent watch porn since.

after quitting porn: from now on everything was normal,except day 3 i MO'ed.unless that situation, i was just hitting the gym followed up by routine video games,skype calls, facebook flirtings standard usual life.

today (day 5th of no MO day 7th of no PMO) now on the greatest issue for me to not masturbating. especially today. im all okay with not watching porn concept but i cant stop thinking about masturbation. i mean i need to reach an orgasm. today im having this conflict in my mind. everyday morning woods, and even im reading something simultaneous erections. even i masturbate a little bit but i hold myself up. after thirty seconds. Oh my god, its hard. I'm just respecting everyone in this site. You guys are doing the hardest work on the freaking earth. So im in the same way as you guys do inorder to destroy all porn induced erection problems in my life.

Edit: I would like to enter a brief history, just if there is another else shares something like my history.

I live in Turkey, the country is conservative as you may predict. Girls are not easy to get. i didnt had a sexual tendency when i first found out porn.which is when i was 13 years old. after then i masturbate for 7 years frequently. sometimes everyday 2-3 times sometimes 3-4 day once. but i did. then i had my first gf at highschool. she was like the cute girl from the math class. like sweet girl but with a flat chest. anyway we went on a vacation i couldnt get hard. i related this to my anxiety. she went away to another city for 2 months when she came back i remember that i missed her. we come back to my place and in the first kiss i was up. from then i never had any erection problems with that girl. after we break up i hang around with 2-3 girls. couldnt get hard with them. their mutual point was they're having small breats. so i hit on a girl with big breasts. and she wasnt shy, just like the girls i see in porns. she jumped on me and i had a boner instantly.

anyway in short, there is a problem with me that i need to handle. i know im addicted to porn and masturbation. i need to stop it. though im dying to masturbate.

Also about me:

im studying engineering, a cinephilliac,playing guitar, interested in 80's pop, Hard rock, Hair Metal, also im a huge history enthusiast i enjoy reading everything about 16-17th century europe. and i love to read books about philosophy one of my fav. writer is ayn rand.
 

kalia

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Day 6: Day started totally normal. had some tournament matches on the video game i play semi-professionally. we've won 2 out of 3. so it was okay. then i listened some music it went well also. Though today i would like to be with a specific friend of mine, which i got kind of romantic feelings. we planned on going to a historical village which produces wines of all kind of fruit. (melons, blackberry, cherry etc.) she got sick so we changed our plan to the next week. Also this is the last day of my vacation my school starts tomorrow. i got some urges but i can deal with them. But you know its hard to stand against, its like this addiction is really strong in me, but i will win against it, Hopefully.

Update: the girl i was talking about. She literally suggested that we should move in together next year. oh my god, i really need to defeat this ed problem of mine. thats the dream, i mean i cant ask nothing more. i just cant ask nothing more. im dying of happiness. At the moment i literally crushed all my urges just for that dream. I will achieve it, cause i want her more that everything.
 
hello Kalia!

You will win!

The girl wants to move in with you? Don't panic, and use it as a motivation as you said.
I'm now 8 days PMO free so it's almost the same where you started and I'm also 20.
We can try and keep up with each other what to you say?

Also the videogame thing doesn't seem too bad for me. At least it's something to do and not just staying there fighting against your addiction. If it's semi-professionally it can actually give you some reward. I smoke weed and like to produce electronic music, that's my main hobby, and even if most people would say it's like procrastination (it's not professional) I think it's helping me a lot during my reboot.

Reading your story makes me think you CAN do it, you seem to have a lot of interests, from movies to music to philosophy etc...

Keep it strong man, I know you can do it.

PEACE
 

kalia

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Day 7: it was the first day of the college, im 2nd grade now. i didnt go to lessons instead of it i hang out with the girl i mentioned before. played some tekken,mortal kombat she is a worthy opponent. she won some games, it was enjoyable then we ate something. then meet up with friends of mine from department. hang out, had some fun. after that she left, i hang out my friends.

right now got back in my home. quite happy. no urges so far so it must been a good sign. im literally pumped up with motivation. i need to success. i will success.
 

kalia

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Siviaggiare said:
hello Kalia!

You will win!

Reading your story makes me think you CAN do it, you seem to have a lot of interests, from movies to music to philosophy etc...

Keep it strong man, I know you can do it.

PEACE

Thanks for the belief in me man. yesterday my motivation at its highest. my cravings will lower in next 2 weeks. so ill be okay.

Siviaggiare said:
The girl wants to move in with you? Don't panic, and use it as a motivation as you said.

we talked it about as next year plan. and we met up today, i mean there were some physical contact. though im really stressed up with this ed problem. i need to defeat it fast. i just cant tell her the problem, im kind of embarressed.Tho it gave me a motivation to keep up and dont give up.




Siviaggiare said:
I'm now 8 days PMO free so it's almost the same where you started and I'm also 20.
We can try and keep up with each other what to you say?

Of course man, your story also will give strength in me. Will start to read after writing that post.


Siviaggiare said:
Also the videogame thing doesn't seem too bad for me. At least it's something to do and not just staying there fighting against your addiction. If it's semi-professionally it can actually give you some reward. I smoke weed and like to produce electronic music, that's my main hobby, and even if most people would say it's like procrastination (it's not professional) I think it's helping me a lot during my reboot.

Yeah hobbies are good. actually now on these days im kind of into Synthwave music. so i started to listen some kind of electronic music you would say. I would like to do listen your songs if its possible.
 
It's very good that you have a girl on your side, I hope I can find one as soon as possible to talk with and to help me when my urges will come  ;D

I do exprimental kind of weird music so I don't think you will like it.. but I will send you a link in private anyway :)

I listen to a lot of music of all kind (like A LOT), and it's helping me so much.

Also it is helping me a lot to have a list of things to do for when any kind of P ideas comes in to my mind or I have any urges.. I just choose a thing to do and forget about it. Still the best to avoid it is always not staying home alone!

May I ask you if you have ever tried to have intercourse with your girlfriend? (if you don't want to talk about it I'm totally ok with that :) )

Always stay strong  8) PEACE!

 

kalia

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Siviaggiare said:
It's very good that you have a girl on your side, I hope I can find one as soon as possible to talk with and to help me when my urges will come  ;D

May I ask you if you have ever tried to have intercourse with your girlfriend? (if you don't want to talk about it I'm totally ok with that :) )

Always stay strong  8) PEACE!

Thanks man, as always. At the moment we are kinda flirting, its not like we are boyfriend and girlfriend. We are both into each other, just flirting man, you know :)

edit, something to add:

though im really curious about what will happen when things started to get advanced. i fear that my ed problem will show up again. i dont want to get embarressed, especially to her. if its some other girl i would like "meh, dont give a fuck". But to her its kinda important. And also i will have anxiety issues when we'll try im pretty sure. cause she has been like lots of guys.
 

kalia

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day 8: i just woke up will have a breakfast, then play some video games and hit the gym. thats the plan. i'll teach a video game to the girl i mentioned before. this evening we will play together online.
 

kalia

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day 9: everything seems kinda okay, there is a little part inside me wants to jerk off to new hot pornstars which have been borned 1995 or 1996. but im maintaining my control. The weird thing has, i've started to see REALLY AWKWARD DREAMS. like im jerking off in my dream but only the head section is erectile, and my penis is like 1-2 inches. The weird images in my head. I really started to scare off.

except that i went school today, the lessons still havent started. im kinda tired also. But i wasnt believing that i could go 9 days without masturbation so ill set my goals higher. after 28 days ill do 62 days more. maybe more i wont give up unless i am sure that i've been cured from this ED.
 

kalia

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day 10: i woke up just like normal, no erections or any weird dreams. then i went to sleep again. woke up with a morning wood which quality is 9/10, and started to type here, oh my god. i love this site, it really eases my mind to write here, today im not gonna go school, take a flu shot, and hit the gym probably. in the late night i may be go outside for drinking if my friends were positive about going out. i havent took alcohol for 2 weeks. will come back in the night and update my status.
 

kalia

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day 12: i really wonder if i relapsed, i just checked out the nude celebrity photos of j. lawrence and lots of other celebrities, it gave me an erection afterwards i checked it but i didnt masturbate. otherwise things are going well, actually bottom of my penis head is really sensible, i mean it was crazy when i touched it.

will go my brother's home tonight, and tomorrow ill be at my friends home. so i might not write a bit. but things are going really good. im controlling my urges. i will success!
 

kalia

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day 13: i wont go to my friends. im feeling kinda bad, because of chronic tonsillitis.also i got pharyngitis. oh boy. friday i had 1 penicilin shot. in 3 weeks ill get another one. otherwise things are going well for me to not masturbate. but my weird dreams still there. i saw a man with a really huge penis getting blowjob from a beautiful woman. and no morning woods. i couldnt understand why i am seeing these kind dreams.
 

kalia

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day 14: today i woke up a very bad throatsore, got pharyngitis. dude it sucks. i dont have cravings like i had before. what does it mean? did i enter a flatline. i mean i want to masturbate and orgasm but not that much.To be honest, i dont feel anything its like im empty.
 

kalia

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day 15: turns out my pharyngitis turned into a flu, oh my god. but im better now. today was the first legit day on university, in terms of lectures. had modern physics today it was quite alright. then went on my brother's to watch lock,stock and two smoking barrels. the movie was really nice tbh, guy ritchie is the man. in terms of craving i havent had single one today. things are really going nice.
 

kalia

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day 16: couldnt sleep last night because of nasal flow, went my digital systems lecture at 8 am. got back home at 12pm and slept like 5 pm. when i wake up i noticed a 'morning' wood its like 9/10. that made me happy to be honest.I felt like a man again.

My cravings were low today except i noticed a busty girl with a small waist on the cafeteria. I was turned insane for a moment. That was weird. Probably she is the reason i got 'morning' wood in the afternoon sleep of mine. i wanted her sooooooo bad.
 

kalia

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day 17: not a single craving today. guess im really entered flatline though im not still sure yet. because i've never experienced a flatline. will go to school in 1 hour. got some labwork. after then will come home and play dota.
 

kalia

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early beginning of day 18: things were going great until i saw a porn scene a little bit accidentally and i started to think realistic. im so pumped up yeah, thats true but i missed having an orgasm so bad. how long i can last long dont know kinda started to lose faith. it was a lexi belle scene. i really missed that chick. oh my god. i dont want to relapse but i freaking missed it. what should i do?
 

kalia

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day 19: day started with a morning wood. i dreamt that i was having sex with a redheaded busty woman, it was not a wet dream, only a  morning wood. im still struggling in my head. i want to do a pmo but im holding myself. My will to success preventing me to do so. Im kind of sad to be honest that i cant masturbate to porn.

addition: 15 mins ago a girl on facebook that i dont know added me, she was kind of metalhead and i got long raven hair.she should've liked me.she had some sexy photos and i edged myself to orgasm but i stopped it before i cum. things are not going well for me these days.
 

kalia

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day 19: i did it. MO'ed 5 mins ago. without looking porn, pics or fantasizing anything. i just erected myself just plain, literally my mind was blank. absolute blankness. i just get myself erected and i ejaculated. im not too sad to be honest. because on the brightside i succeeded a nice run 19 day for the first try-out.

So on this situation how i damaged myself? was it too bad? or salvageable? dont know. really dont know.
 
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