Could need some feedback and thoughts after 11 months of no P and 6 months of MO

[Jeks]

Hey guys,

i am right now nearly 11 months without P and 6 months without MO. I get morning wood occasionally, but i slowly tend to believe, that the next step has to be dating and rewiring. The thing is, i am still a virgin (i am 26) and i think, that it would give me much more confidence, when i would be able to masturbate with an improved erection, before meeting with women. My morning woods and nocturnal erections are very rarely a hundred percent, but much better, then i have ever had (only exception as a young teenager), and often like 80 or 90 percent.
I would really much appreciate your thoughts on that. Should i try to MO to maybe boost my confidence or should i just try dating without? What are your experiences on that topic?

Thanks in advance.

 

[Deleted member 17609]

Hi,

My background is different than yours, so I can?t give you advice based on experience. And I have started rebooting only 78 days ago, so I am not healed yet. But I think I can tell you a few things than could be helpful to you.

Personally, I think it?s better to stay away from masturbation. I don?t know if you have PIED, but if you do, I think it?s generally best to avoid masturbation. Guys who successfully rebooted often say that they completely stopped masturbation too, not only porn.

Morning wood and wet dreams seem to be a good sign of progress, so it?s great that you have them. It should improve with time too.

I think the next step for you would be to try to go out and meet people. Hang out and try developing social skills and confidence. Don?t put pressure on yourself about performing correctly in bed. But you have to start somewhere. Don?t panic if it doesn?t work perfectly in the bedroom, we have all been there very often. Stick with no PMO, and try to meet people and rewiring your brain to real sex. You are off to a great start, just keep up the good work, and try to improve your social skills. There are millions of women out there, I am sure there are plenty who would like to share a relationship with you, or to have fun with you.

 

[blerasdcru]

hey,

Jeks u are far more advance than me in this way, im almost on the 90 days mark, but i could consider myself also a virgin, or semivirgin xd, bc my penis has never been more than 1 minute in a vagina.
I would say that if u have gone that far, and u want to masturbate just do it but inthe good way. and i mean by that, touching all your body like 10 minutes except your body, feeling it, getting aroused, and then start to stroke smothly your penis being conscious of your sensations and not letting your imagination go to bad territories, just staying in the moment and getting aroused by it.
Just like being with a real women but without being with her.

About the issue of the full hardness erection, for me happens the same, i dont remember when was the last time i was 100%, but now in morning woods i can reach ocassionally 80% and im fucking happy with it.

I think it s a proccess and u have to listen your body what it s telling you. Im really grateful of discovering this site, and im really grateful i have almost achieved the 90 days mark, i probably will take some more days to masturbate, but im sure that sooner or later im gonna do it, in the good way and not abusing of the practice.

Just go for it bro, ttry to meet girls and have fun with them. Doesnt matter if ur penis work or not, it will eventually work, and at least u have a great time with her.

i am not an expert at all, im talking just by my own judge. I hope u keep doing great and hopefully we will be out of this ''soon'', take care

 

[Jeks]

thanks you two for answering.

I have to tell you that i tried to masturbate and it was just bad erection wise (yes, i have got PIED). But there are also some positive signs. First i dont have a such strong chaser effect, as i would have had in the past. And secondly i was able to not think about old porn scenes. When they came into mind, i was just able to think about something else.
At first i was pretty down because of not having an improved erection, but now i just think, that it will just take more time. I had again strong nocturnal erections, so for me there should be really no other reason possible than having PIED.

You two are also absolutely right. I have to learn to get out there, despite the fact, that i have PIED. Its not all about sex and i still can have fun?, also with women. Its not only that it is just a fact, i think it also just will be very beneficial to me. I will work on that for sure. I will keep going without P and MO and will try to be patient.

Thanks for the feedback guys