A 2+ year recovery

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I was first exposed to porn as a teen. From there I was hooked. First just photos with dial-up then videos when broadband arrived. It was an exciting world to me even though I am a Christian and knew it was wrong. I married in my early 20's and secretly continued porn watching. I went through the cycle of regret, shame, swearing it off, and then would inevitably return to it. That continued into my 30s until I started having ED problems. The ED freaked me out. My doctor prescribed viagra (of course) which did help but took away some spontaneity and I also became dependent on it. I did not believe I could perform without it. I began to have performance anxiety which perpetuated and worsened the ED. I continued the porn watching and the consequent shame cycle. A little over 2 years ago in my early 40s, I discovered YBOP, Gabe Deem's videos, and this forum. It was a eureka moment for me and just in time. I had major anxiety about sex and was depressed. It had not occurred to me that my ED was related to porn usage (can't believe I did not make the connection). I came completely clean to my wife, painful as that was. She was deeply hurt by the years of lies and deception and thinking my ED was somehow her fault. I completely stopped PMO. I continue intimacy with my wife after some time but still relied on viagra. I began to have some successes without viagra. It took over 2 years before I could say I had fully recovered and no longer need viagra. My libido is not what it once was but I am in my mid 40s. I credit my recovery first to God who gave me strength and showed me I could have victory without drugs, and second, to this forum and the people on it. Knowing I was not alone in the struggle helped a lot. I have healing in my marriage and my brain.