a short guy
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I'm 55 and a P and M addict with a 40 year history, since I was 14 and discovered my brother's P-mags. I used M to fantasy and PMO to escape family and childhood issues like fear of abandonment and low self-esteem, no sexual abuse.. I'm divorced due a lot to PMO. I am remarried. No ED. I never cheated on my wives with a real human being, but PMO-ing and masturbating to fantasies of other women felt like cheating.
I've made many attempts to quit P use over the years with limited success but never in "recovery" it seems, just abstinence. I truly believed it was impossible to quit and that I was doomed to live till my dying day in my own personal hell. Over the years, I've struggled with low self-esteem and confidence, depression and anxiety as well, which was exacerbated by my P-use.
I felt utterly hopeless until I found YBOP website and YBR forum, and got the information and support I needed. I quit both P and M on February 27th, 2013. Today is day 399 of my reboot. You can find my YBR journal here: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=7345.0
I still struggle with personal issues and life stresses like anyone, but am confronting them head-on now, without medicating with my addiction. I have no interest in and am no longer struggling with P or M. But don't misunderstand, I know I am an addict and am always one click away from compulsively using and being right back in the vicious cycle. I'm just choosing not to use, not to click, not to go there. My strategy continues to be, No peeking, No M, No P, No option. The real thing only.
I've made many attempts to quit P use over the years with limited success but never in "recovery" it seems, just abstinence. I truly believed it was impossible to quit and that I was doomed to live till my dying day in my own personal hell. Over the years, I've struggled with low self-esteem and confidence, depression and anxiety as well, which was exacerbated by my P-use.
I felt utterly hopeless until I found YBOP website and YBR forum, and got the information and support I needed. I quit both P and M on February 27th, 2013. Today is day 399 of my reboot. You can find my YBR journal here: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=7345.0
I still struggle with personal issues and life stresses like anyone, but am confronting them head-on now, without medicating with my addiction. I have no interest in and am no longer struggling with P or M. But don't misunderstand, I know I am an addict and am always one click away from compulsively using and being right back in the vicious cycle. I'm just choosing not to use, not to click, not to go there. My strategy continues to be, No peeking, No M, No P, No option. The real thing only.