Hey everyone.
I recently turned 30 and I have PIED. I grew up in India in a very conservative religious family where sex before marriage was strictly forbidden. Even having a girlfriend or dating wasn't the culture. Most people in my culture get married through an arranged marriage. So I stayed virgin till my late 20's (something that's pretty common in my culture). I had a few girlfriends that my family didn't know about in my early 20's but all we did was make out. Girls I went out with wouldn't want to do anything beyond that and I respected that. Needless to say, porn was my only option. I started jerking off to explicit pictures by 12 but only started watching porn when I was 16. I was instantly hooked to it. Have been watching porn all these years, more so recently. I first discovered I had a problem when I had a girlfriend 2 years back and either I had a half-hard dick with her or couldn't hold my erection for long. We mostly just did oral stuff then (since she came from the same culture and didn't want to go all the way before marriage). I didn't realize the issue I had was due to porn at the time or I didn't want to acknowledge it. It happened again last year April when I wanted to have sex with a girl and couldn't get hard to perform the act. I started looking up for it and came across PIED online and realized I matched the profile. I have been trying to stop watching porn unsuccessfully since then. There was a time when I didn't watch porn for a month but then came back to it again after a heart break.
Last year, in November, I started seeing a girl. As a desperate measure I went to a urologist who prescribed me Sildenafil, which is similar to a viagra. I could get hard after taking that and had good sex a few times with her before we stopped seeing each other. Now I have been single and not really dating anyone since the pandemic started. I was already an introvert and this pandemic eliminated any chances of finding a girl. So out of desperation in the last few months, I found a provider for it and had sex a few times. I used the Sildenafil as before, however I observed, that I had to take at least 3 tablets to get a hard erection. Anything less, I still had a limp noodle and that scared me even more.
I want to stop taking it. I want to stop taking a provider help too. Now, I am determined more than ever to stop watching porn. This is is just day 2 for me but I am determined to go 90 days from now.
I have a few questions for the community here:
1. Do people with PIED still get a boner with a viagra? Have any of you guys tried it? And if taking a viagra does get you a boner, is the issue still PIED?
2. I have been watching porn mostly once a day. Are there any tips that you guys have while abstaining from porn? What do you do when you get the urge?
3. On average, how long does it take for a person in my situation to get over PIED?
4. What's the best help you guys got on this journey from someone? Counselling, therapy or like from someone.
5. Does just abstaining from porn help you guys overcome PIED? or are there additional things in the process that you have tried?
6. Does have real encounter with a woman help during this process or is it complete inactivity related to sex?
As I said I am determined this time to stop watching porn. And I am writing this journal so that I keep myself on that path.
I recently turned 30 and I have PIED. I grew up in India in a very conservative religious family where sex before marriage was strictly forbidden. Even having a girlfriend or dating wasn't the culture. Most people in my culture get married through an arranged marriage. So I stayed virgin till my late 20's (something that's pretty common in my culture). I had a few girlfriends that my family didn't know about in my early 20's but all we did was make out. Girls I went out with wouldn't want to do anything beyond that and I respected that. Needless to say, porn was my only option. I started jerking off to explicit pictures by 12 but only started watching porn when I was 16. I was instantly hooked to it. Have been watching porn all these years, more so recently. I first discovered I had a problem when I had a girlfriend 2 years back and either I had a half-hard dick with her or couldn't hold my erection for long. We mostly just did oral stuff then (since she came from the same culture and didn't want to go all the way before marriage). I didn't realize the issue I had was due to porn at the time or I didn't want to acknowledge it. It happened again last year April when I wanted to have sex with a girl and couldn't get hard to perform the act. I started looking up for it and came across PIED online and realized I matched the profile. I have been trying to stop watching porn unsuccessfully since then. There was a time when I didn't watch porn for a month but then came back to it again after a heart break.
Last year, in November, I started seeing a girl. As a desperate measure I went to a urologist who prescribed me Sildenafil, which is similar to a viagra. I could get hard after taking that and had good sex a few times with her before we stopped seeing each other. Now I have been single and not really dating anyone since the pandemic started. I was already an introvert and this pandemic eliminated any chances of finding a girl. So out of desperation in the last few months, I found a provider for it and had sex a few times. I used the Sildenafil as before, however I observed, that I had to take at least 3 tablets to get a hard erection. Anything less, I still had a limp noodle and that scared me even more.
I want to stop taking it. I want to stop taking a provider help too. Now, I am determined more than ever to stop watching porn. This is is just day 2 for me but I am determined to go 90 days from now.
I have a few questions for the community here:
1. Do people with PIED still get a boner with a viagra? Have any of you guys tried it? And if taking a viagra does get you a boner, is the issue still PIED?
2. I have been watching porn mostly once a day. Are there any tips that you guys have while abstaining from porn? What do you do when you get the urge?
3. On average, how long does it take for a person in my situation to get over PIED?
4. What's the best help you guys got on this journey from someone? Counselling, therapy or like from someone.
5. Does just abstaining from porn help you guys overcome PIED? or are there additional things in the process that you have tried?
6. Does have real encounter with a woman help during this process or is it complete inactivity related to sex?
As I said I am determined this time to stop watching porn. And I am writing this journal so that I keep myself on that path.