IMPORTANT - Question for successful rebooters

[jfrancisco2102]

I?m almost 90 days in. I want to keep going further and further without P but eventually have sex. My problem is that I have a really distorted image of what sex should look like due to overconsumption of P, and every time I feel horny I experience some sort of anxiety knowing that that stardard of sex is unachievable for me. Does anyone have a recommendation for this?

 

[anubu0]

Hey man. Yeah that's classic performance anxiety. The best way to handle this is to find someone (a romantic partner) who you feel comfortable sharing your issue with. Take it gradually and you will eventually feel accustomed to porn. Another strategy, tell yourself you are not a porn addict and never were. Get the mental block out and you should succeed. Good luck.

 

[Conan]

Yeah, that's classic performance anxiety, everyone who has PIED develops that and it can be as devastating as PIED itself. In fact I'm starting to beleave that long time rebooters who fail at sex after months and months of abstinence, fail because of performance anxiety and not actual PIED, because their PIED is healed by that time. And I speak from personal experience, as I wnt 100 days without P and M, saw tons of improvements, relapsed once because of stupid stress and then started obsessing about it and developed performance anxiety and of course couldn't do anything when I tried sex again. Then I said fuck thus shit, opened up to my girl, told her everything, got it out of my chest and tried sex again and it worked like a charm. It worked following day as well. Obsessing over PIED is the only thing that can fuck you up more than the PIED itself. Performance anxiety is real but luckily you can get rid of it pretty easily by just opening up to your partner and telling her everything. It's not easy, takes some balls to do it, but it will get tons of stress of your mind and you won't have to deal with anxiety or performance issues.

 

[jfrancisco2102]

Yeah, that's classic performance anxiety, everyone who has PIED develops that and it can be as devastating as PIED itself. In fact I'm starting to beleave that long time rebooters who fail at sex after months and months of abstinence, fail because of performance anxiety and not actual PIED, because their PIED is healed by that time. And I speak from personal experience, as I wnt 100 days without P and M, saw tons of improvements, relapsed once because of stupid stress and then started obsessing about it and developed performance anxiety and of course couldn't do anything when I tried sex again. Then I said fuck thus shit, opened up to my girl, told her everything, got it out of my chest and tried sex again and it worked like a charm. It worked following day as well. Obsessing over PIED is the only thing that can fuck you up more than the PIED itself. Performance anxiety is real but luckily you can get rid of it pretty easily by just opening up to your partner and telling her everything. It's not easy, takes some balls to do it, but it will get tons of stress of your mind and you won't have to deal with anxiety or performance issues.

Yeah, I know that it?s mixed with P.A. However, I am experiencing good signs as regards returning libido (it was really low maybe due to P but to PIED also) and know I?m getting better at it. For me fantasizing about real women and real intercourse is a great progress. Currently I?m dating a girl but I haven?t had the chance to get her to my place due to strict lockdown in my country but i feel like I?m ready to give it a try. Thanks!