Is it ok to have sex during your reboot period?

[Kimgary]

Hi guys,

I'm new to this forum here, and i was just wondering if it's ok to try and have sex during your reboot period, like maybe after 60 days into the reboot process. How would i know if my libido is back during the reboot process? Can someone please help me out here, I'm getting depressed.

 

[MeepMan]

Having sex is fine during the reboot process as you're pairing sexual thoughts and feelings with the real thing

 

[Mbg]

I think it depends.  For some, sex may be fine and it may not promote one to turn back to porn.  For others (like myself), I have decided it would be best to remain abstinent for 60 days.  I am not only a porn addict, I am a sex addict.  Part of my reboot and recovery is geared at renewing a healthy outlook on sex.  I would frequently MO while fantasizing about past sexual experiences.  It was just another form of porn for me.  No porn, no MO, and no sex for a designated time period.  It's what some on here call "hardmode".  I would encourage you to try a period of abstinence so long as your partner is supportive of the idea.  30-60 days seems reasonable. 

 

[Kimgary]

Thanks guys for the info. So is it advisable for me to go hard mode? My ed case is actually quite severe.

 

[jjhh]

Hardmode is probably best way to recover from ED. So I hear.
When going hardmode you might experience flatlining and total loss of lipido for some time (time varies greatly), but at some point lipido definately comes back stronger than before. (you might notice it from morning wood etc) Then just stay away porn.
Easier said than done though!
Good luck mate.

 

[William]

I usually tell people it is OK to have sex during the reboot because that is what we are rewiring our brain's reward center to reward.

That said...you have described your ED as severe.  For a guy like you, I do advise the hard 90.  You need to understand this is a limited period of time in your life to achieve long term, life time, results.  And yes, along the way you will feel like you are dying, but you won't.  No one ever dies from quitting porn addiction.  Just feels like it a bit.

Peace. 

http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=1256.0

 

[Kimgary]

Thanks everyone and William for that piece of advice. Looks like I'm gonna have to go hard mode from now on and see if it works. I've read some of your recovery stories and really has motivated me in wanting to achieve this even more. PEID has really destroyed my relationship in the past years. I was really depressed , guilty and felt like there was no hope. Until I've stumbled upon YBOP and some of the recovery stories that kept me staying strong. Hope to share some of my stories in the next couple of weeks and god bless all of you!!