raoulf
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I'm a 27 year old gay man and I'm addicted to porn and masturbation. It's taken me awhile to recognize that I was actually addicted and how it was affecting me. I came out in high school but at the time I didn't know of any other gay people in my area so I told myself I'd wait until college to meet someone. Around my senior year of high school my family finally got internet at home and that's when I started PMO. At first it wasn't very often but by the time I was a sophomore in college I was using it at least once a day. My junior year of college I met my first boyfriend and finally was hoping to lose my virginity. I was really into him but the night that we got intimate I could not get an erection. I was mortified, I knew that I was capable of an erection because I got one to PMO but it just laid there limp with my boyfriend. I chalked it up to nerves and poor body image (I had recently gained 20 pounds of weight). But as time went on I started to feel like there may be something else going on.
After that relationship ended I tried a number of one night stands, each ending with embarrassment because I could not perform. Things really came to a head with my last boyfriend. He was everything I had ever wanted and I found him so attractive and yet again, 95% of the time I could not get or maintain an erection with him. This really hurt him and there were a number of times that he worried aloud that I didn't find him attractive or really wasn't in to him, and after a year of dating he left me. For the last 4 years I've been single and my PMO habit has grown. About 7 months ago I discovered YBOP and everything finally clicked. It made sense, my symptoms, coupled with my behavior it made complete sense.
So I decided right there to just quit PMO, simple right? No. It's been an incredibly rocky 7 months. The longest streak I could get would be 30 days and then I would fall off the wagon and binge PMO for a few days. Over the summer I had worked my way back up to around 30 days but failed again and have since been unable to get back on track. I moved away from my hometown in August to go to law school and I feel like my PMO addiction has sky rocketed since leaving home. I'm sure it has something to do with the stress and isolation of being in a new city, doing a new job, and needed an outlet.
I really would like to eventually have a fulfilling relationship with the right guy but I feel like my PMO is really holding me back. I'm very self-conscious and anxious most of the time and I truly believe a great deal of it is stemming from the PMO, because when I would be able to abstain for a few weeks it always amazed me how much calmer I felt. Now that I've moved to a city with a larger gay population I don't want to miss my chance with a great guy because PMO.
So I've decided that I can't make this journey alone. I need support and so I'm reaching out to you guys. I've read your posts and stories for awhile now seeking the motivation I needed, but I feel like I need to actually get involved and put myself out here to reap the most benefits. I know this journey is not going to be easy, but I'm hoping with some support I will be successful this time.
After that relationship ended I tried a number of one night stands, each ending with embarrassment because I could not perform. Things really came to a head with my last boyfriend. He was everything I had ever wanted and I found him so attractive and yet again, 95% of the time I could not get or maintain an erection with him. This really hurt him and there were a number of times that he worried aloud that I didn't find him attractive or really wasn't in to him, and after a year of dating he left me. For the last 4 years I've been single and my PMO habit has grown. About 7 months ago I discovered YBOP and everything finally clicked. It made sense, my symptoms, coupled with my behavior it made complete sense.
So I decided right there to just quit PMO, simple right? No. It's been an incredibly rocky 7 months. The longest streak I could get would be 30 days and then I would fall off the wagon and binge PMO for a few days. Over the summer I had worked my way back up to around 30 days but failed again and have since been unable to get back on track. I moved away from my hometown in August to go to law school and I feel like my PMO addiction has sky rocketed since leaving home. I'm sure it has something to do with the stress and isolation of being in a new city, doing a new job, and needed an outlet.
I really would like to eventually have a fulfilling relationship with the right guy but I feel like my PMO is really holding me back. I'm very self-conscious and anxious most of the time and I truly believe a great deal of it is stemming from the PMO, because when I would be able to abstain for a few weeks it always amazed me how much calmer I felt. Now that I've moved to a city with a larger gay population I don't want to miss my chance with a great guy because PMO.
So I've decided that I can't make this journey alone. I need support and so I'm reaching out to you guys. I've read your posts and stories for awhile now seeking the motivation I needed, but I feel like I need to actually get involved and put myself out here to reap the most benefits. I know this journey is not going to be easy, but I'm hoping with some support I will be successful this time.