When guys describe masturbating 3 or more times a day, for 7-10 hours, then passing out asleep, then waking up and doing it all over again, well ....
I wonder WTF I am doing here. My wife, who is on this journey with me (best accountability partner EVER), is surprised by it. I'm not. I'm 62 years old. I've had a binge or two in 48 years of jerking off. I was married from age 20-32, then again from age 32 to present.
I don't think I'm a porn addict, but she thinks I have a problem. I am trying to jump through this hoop for her (and keeping detailed notes) to rule it out. It's always possible the joke will be on me, and I will find out instead that I really do have a problem.
That said, there is a pretty well-known sex cyber-therapist, Rob Weiss, who states in "How Much Porn is Too Much Porn?":
https://www.psychcentral.com/blog/sex/2012/03/porn#2
"Research suggests that cyber-porn addicts spend at least 11 or 12 hours per week online (including tablets, smartphones, laptops, and traditional computers), but the amount of time spent can be double or even triple that amount."
However, he does not cite any actual studies with that statement. My guess is he is citing his own personal research, probably based on a large and successful cyber-practice in this area of expertise.
That said, in a lecture to what appears to be a psychology class at BYU (guessing here) Gary Wilson warns against using number of hours spent as the metric to determine porn addiction:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLtSoWrEplM
It's long, but an interesting watch.
As for me personally, before we moved on to rebooting me, my wife and I logged our sexual activity and my PMO activity for 7 months (April to October 2020). During that time, I used porn for an hour and a half every 1.7 days on average. That works out to 6.2 hours per week for 7 months. (Can you tell I'm a data weenie?)
When I use porn, it is not high-speed streaming. I'm old-fashioned, and have amassed a pretty substantial collection of clips and photos. Nothing extreme, because that is of zero interest to me. Mostly girls next door whom I find stimulating doing stuff that would not be considered unusual. None of this webcam or chat stuff. I do absolutely zero-zip-nada-nothing on my phone. (Pretty typical answers for us Old Guys).
By contrast she gives me about 2.5 hours of her time per week facing me naked. I have told her that if she gave me an additional 6.2 hours per week facing me naked, I would not really have a problem ignoring pornography. If it sounds like I'm making a joke, I'm not. It's interesting when you can remove conjecture or speculation because you have real numbers.
Should there be any question, my wife is a huge turn-on to me. In my opinion, the fact that I use porn affects her self-esteem. In my opinion, I work very very hard to make sure she knows how much I cherish her, and appreciate her, and how much she totally turns me on, but rather than acknowledge her self-esteem issues and make effort to address those, she is taking the position that I am the one with the problem. I am open to compromise but this unilateral stuff is a bit unrealistic.
I get decent erections (Yes, I use small doses of Sildenafil [12.5 to 25mg] but did I mention I'm 62?), but my wife thinks I take too long to get to an orgasm and she would like to believe it is because of pornography. I disagree with her, but a good way to find out is to experiment and learn the answer.
Which is what we are doing.
Welcome to being married for 30 years.
Cheers!