I'm 34 yrs old am addicted to porn for more than 10 yrs , I get married 4 month ago , I stopped masturbation before my marriage but stopped seeing porn closely to 3 months , I start feel developing in my morning erection and cured from DE but still suffer from ED and sometimes feels anxiety when starting sex can any one give me useful advice ?
New married
- Thread starter Aladdin
- Start date
TheHeartacheKid
Active Member
Hey Aladdin,
First welcome! Glad you're here posting. I'm not married so I cannot give advice on that, however, in reading the books and other people's journals, once you go without PMO for a long enough time, all of the issues you are facing go away. So the best advice I can give it to stay the course.
Is your wife aware of your addiction?
First welcome! Glad you're here posting. I'm not married so I cannot give advice on that, however, in reading the books and other people's journals, once you go without PMO for a long enough time, all of the issues you are facing go away. So the best advice I can give it to stay the course.
Is your wife aware of your addiction?
TheHeartacheKid
Active Member
Aladdin said:
Ah very good. Then just share with her more about what you're going through, I'm sure she'll understand if you need to take a break from intimacy for a bit, which will help the issues you're facing heal faster.
Mikeyp8619
Member
Aladdin,
I'll bet she's thrilled you're taking action. To me, it shows how much you care about her. Stick with the course, as TheHeartacheKid said.
I'll bet she's thrilled you're taking action. To me, it shows how much you care about her. Stick with the course, as TheHeartacheKid said.
imsorrynotsorry
Active Member
Hello Aladdin,
like you i had troubles with ED with my GF in bed and like you i got anxious before we had sex. There are things you both could try.
To relieve the pressure of "performing" as a man it's helpful to turn sex into something different, like Karezza (google it) and elements of Taoism. This is when you have sex but the man would not O at no point, because the semen is a precious thing. The idea behind my advice is to eliminate the pressure of performing as a man and to learn a new way of intimacy with your wife. Like touching each other, kissing and maybe she can have fun and that's absolutely okay. If you work good - fine - if not, then it's no problem, because sex shouldn't be that orgasm-focused like a lot of guys think it is. Learning that sex is a thing one can have without Oing was a great stress relieve for me.
In my journal i wrote down some kind of diet that can help you improve your blood flow and libido. Just look it up and maybe it's helpful for you.
Another advice, try to create a nice atmosphere in bed. Like being more joyful and funny to improve positiveness in bed.
Do not let the frustration near you - it will pass one day. This day can be far in the future or close, no one can say this.
take care
Imsor
like you i had troubles with ED with my GF in bed and like you i got anxious before we had sex. There are things you both could try.
To relieve the pressure of "performing" as a man it's helpful to turn sex into something different, like Karezza (google it) and elements of Taoism. This is when you have sex but the man would not O at no point, because the semen is a precious thing. The idea behind my advice is to eliminate the pressure of performing as a man and to learn a new way of intimacy with your wife. Like touching each other, kissing and maybe she can have fun and that's absolutely okay. If you work good - fine - if not, then it's no problem, because sex shouldn't be that orgasm-focused like a lot of guys think it is. Learning that sex is a thing one can have without Oing was a great stress relieve for me.
In my journal i wrote down some kind of diet that can help you improve your blood flow and libido. Just look it up and maybe it's helpful for you.
Another advice, try to create a nice atmosphere in bed. Like being more joyful and funny to improve positiveness in bed.
Do not let the frustration near you - it will pass one day. This day can be far in the future or close, no one can say this.
take care
Imsor
brandon1984
Member
I'm right there with you Aladdin! I've been married since July 2017 and I'm still trying to put screen stimulation down. It doesn't have to be just hardcore porn...girls twerking or staring at girls on your phone/computer screen in a lustful way are also not good. I definitely feel the anxiety when even thinking about sex but I haven't gone 3 months without porn as you did. I applaud you!! Stay the course! Everyone says it'll fade away. I was experiencing morning wood again but then I relapsed and the morning wood went away 
We have to stay strong!
We have to stay strong!I have been married and have failed many times thanks to PIED.
I have also overcome it, thanks to staying away from porn and all hypersexualized thoughts. It takes a bit of time but go complete hard mode for a period of time IMO and then look to rewire.
Of course, I am here because I relapsed. Sigh. But for married men, know that there is light at the end of the tunnel if you do this right.
I also didn't tell my wife i was recovering so it was harder for me.
I have also overcome it, thanks to staying away from porn and all hypersexualized thoughts. It takes a bit of time but go complete hard mode for a period of time IMO and then look to rewire.
Of course, I am here because I relapsed. Sigh. But for married men, know that there is light at the end of the tunnel if you do this right.
I also didn't tell my wife i was recovering so it was harder for me.