Day 9 Since last PMO
Hello! Starting this journal to document my reboot and recovery Journey from an addiction i never realized i had.
Some info about who I am;
I'm 29 years old, to be 30 this year, hence posting in the 30+ section.
Living in Sweden, working as a mechanical engineer from home most of my working days.
Got a wonderful girlfriend who is actually the one that brought the problems with porn to light for me, and told me that it needed to go for us to be together (that happened the summer of 2020). Before that I just thought of PMO as something almost all men do and not that much of a problem. First remembrance of being exposed to porn that I have is from sometime before the age of 10, finding magazines in some bushes around my neighborhood. Also remember finding a vhs-recording in my home that had (i guess) accidentally recorded a porn movie because it recorded overnight. This tape was, i guess, my first "available on demand" porn. My internet porn consumption have consisted of PMO a couple of times a day restricted to a couple of days a week, a bit more when not in a relationship. I've been in different relationships most of my adult life, the longest relationship lasted 7 years and ended a little over a year ago. I've no problems getting hard and having sex with real-life partners, problems i feel are instead a fixation on sex leading to Orgasm and having a hard time to just appreciate intimacy with my partner. I also feel that the kind of sex that turns me on is too much inspired by the things I've watched in porn. This is something that i feel have gotten a lot better since I started my reboot and recovery Journey.
Started my reboot attempt last summer about 6+ months ago, and also brought a close friend with me so that we could be each others accountability partners. As mentioned relapsed fully 9 days ago, relapse made me regretful but also made me realize that this was harder for me than i imagined. This time I'm bringing my girlfriend with me on this, before she kind of did not want anything to do with this part of me, which made me feel like i could not talk to her about it and that she would leave if i did not manage to get rid of this habit. This will be different this time i hope. I've also decided to do hard mode for at least 8 weeks.
So here we go, the last 9 days have been kind of simple porn-wise, any urge to PMO have just been a flick in my mind and then gone. I have instead been on a real emotional rollercoaster with my girlfriend and almost ended up leaving her (Partly connected to my realization about my problem). I have some problems with beeing in relationships and expressing feelings and needs that may be, may be partly or may not be connected to my porn addiction. Seeing a psychiatrist regularly to try and figure that out. Would appreciate some thought from you guys about this.
Got rid of most social media platforms and realized since my last relapse that p-subs is a thing that kept me in the habit real bad. Seeing an attractive girl on a screen gives me anxiety now, as i do not want to be triggered.
I'll leave it here for now, here goes nothing
Hello! Starting this journal to document my reboot and recovery Journey from an addiction i never realized i had.
Some info about who I am;
I'm 29 years old, to be 30 this year, hence posting in the 30+ section.
Living in Sweden, working as a mechanical engineer from home most of my working days.
Got a wonderful girlfriend who is actually the one that brought the problems with porn to light for me, and told me that it needed to go for us to be together (that happened the summer of 2020). Before that I just thought of PMO as something almost all men do and not that much of a problem. First remembrance of being exposed to porn that I have is from sometime before the age of 10, finding magazines in some bushes around my neighborhood. Also remember finding a vhs-recording in my home that had (i guess) accidentally recorded a porn movie because it recorded overnight. This tape was, i guess, my first "available on demand" porn. My internet porn consumption have consisted of PMO a couple of times a day restricted to a couple of days a week, a bit more when not in a relationship. I've been in different relationships most of my adult life, the longest relationship lasted 7 years and ended a little over a year ago. I've no problems getting hard and having sex with real-life partners, problems i feel are instead a fixation on sex leading to Orgasm and having a hard time to just appreciate intimacy with my partner. I also feel that the kind of sex that turns me on is too much inspired by the things I've watched in porn. This is something that i feel have gotten a lot better since I started my reboot and recovery Journey.
Started my reboot attempt last summer about 6+ months ago, and also brought a close friend with me so that we could be each others accountability partners. As mentioned relapsed fully 9 days ago, relapse made me regretful but also made me realize that this was harder for me than i imagined. This time I'm bringing my girlfriend with me on this, before she kind of did not want anything to do with this part of me, which made me feel like i could not talk to her about it and that she would leave if i did not manage to get rid of this habit. This will be different this time i hope. I've also decided to do hard mode for at least 8 weeks.
So here we go, the last 9 days have been kind of simple porn-wise, any urge to PMO have just been a flick in my mind and then gone. I have instead been on a real emotional rollercoaster with my girlfriend and almost ended up leaving her (Partly connected to my realization about my problem). I have some problems with beeing in relationships and expressing feelings and needs that may be, may be partly or may not be connected to my porn addiction. Seeing a psychiatrist regularly to try and figure that out. Would appreciate some thought from you guys about this.
Got rid of most social media platforms and realized since my last relapse that p-subs is a thing that kept me in the habit real bad. Seeing an attractive girl on a screen gives me anxiety now, as i do not want to be triggered.
I'll leave it here for now, here goes nothing