Straight guys hooked on gay porn

MrMan2plus3

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Are there any straight guys out there that were hooked on gay porn and was successful to stop watching porn? If you are one of these, looking for help/advise in stopping and also dealing with the consequences of having this destructive (for me anyways) habit. Would also be good to find people to relate to since I feel I'm alone in this - there's loads of books/help for guys that are ever straight and want to get free from watching straight porn or guys that are fully gay and want to stop watching gay porn.

I've been hooked on gay porn for 20 years now, but don't see myself as gay as I've never had a gay relationship or even a gay experience with another guy. I've only ever approached girls that I'm attracted to. However, being hooked on gay porn for so long affects my friendships and relationships plus all the other consequences of watching porn and I really want to get rid of this distructive habit for good.
 

matstu

Member
There is nothing wrong with you even if there is a part of you that might be gay, or at least intrigued by some gay acts. There are scholars who argue that same-sex attraction is a normal part of heterosexuality, and I tend to agree with them even though I know many would disagree. In any case, what's most important is stopping the destructive habit of pornography consumption. In order to do that I believe it's helpful to look at what this habit "gives" you, what are its roots, what is the psychological reality behind it. Good luck!
 
I'm an example. But I didn't watch this type of porn for that long (20 years), but for about 10 -12 months I'll say in combination with straight, transexual and other types of porn. In the last 3 months I realize that I was watching more and more gay porn and it hit...anxiety, depression and HOCD. The worst part is that I started to have suicidal thoughts. I started to seek reassurance on different websites, forums etc. Well, it made it worse, I wasn't (and I'm not) attracted to men in real life in any form, it was just porn that triggered the arousal.

There are a lot of gay people who will try from what I see if you open about this to convince you that your bisexual/gay, even if you mention that in real life you don't feel pretty much anything towards the same sex. But yeah, a lot of them are trolls from what I see. Even though that I can accept the fact that porn can be an indicator to some degree about someone's sexuality. In my opinion, you can't define your sexuality through porn. You need real people, real relationships, real socializing. In my case, I will never in my entire life I'll do something sexual or having a relationship with a man. It doesn't feel right in my case, I can't see myself of in a relationship with a man or do the things that I'll do with a woman.
 

joepanic

Well-Known Member
I definitely went through the gay porn phase. Along with Trans shemales bondage etc etc. But in real life I had no interest to touch another man sexually ever. This phase actually lasted for several years. A lot of it stemmed from chat rooms almost 20 years ago basically there were no real girls in chat rooms just a lot of guys pretending to be lesbians just so they could "chat with a female. From there it was pretending to be a female just to be able to act out a fantasy on some level. It really was messed up It is still that way in the chat rooms. I am thankful to have broken the habits and quit porn and sex chats. I certainly don't have those interests any longer. I anyone ever tried to tell me some part of me must be gay or bi sexual they will certainly be told off

Cheers

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grantis

Member

n my opinion, you can't define your sexuality through porn. You need real people, real relationships, real socializing. In my case, I will never in my entire life I'll do something sexual or having a relationship with a man. It doesn't feel right in my case, I can't see myself of in a relationship with a man or do the things that I'll do with a woman.

Totally agree. Hopefully i can provide a little piece of mind on the other side of the isle. I'm bisexual and have not really considered gay/bi porn an indicator of my bisexuality. Even though i have watched plenty of gay/bi porn and enjoyed it, that was not the thing that brought my bisexuality to light. It was the feeling i get when i meet a guy and the experiences I enjoyed after meeting them; dates, hookups, relationships, etc.

The gay porn was another pitfall for my addiction, something I enjoyed because I was addicted, and is not an example of what a relationship with a guy looks like.
 
I'm totally straight, but when I was on a binge strange things did happen with my sexuality. I was so immersed with constant jerking off/edging and when I discovered gay scenes it was somehow strangely arousing. Reason? Definitely not my sexual preferences. It was dopamine, novelty seeking. doing something disgusting, humiliating. I even considered trying, but as soon as I shot my load I felt so disgusted by that thought. In my normal state of mind, I found men rather repulsing. I definitely wouldn't like to be touched by a guy or to touch one. Intimacy, romantic relations out of question, even anonymous sex. I'm writing this when I'm sober, but when I'm in a vortex of my binging I don't have completely any control over my arousal template. It's depressive, strange and disgusting.
 
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Artemus

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Are there any straight guys out there that were hooked on gay porn and was successful to stop watching porn? If you are one of these, looking for help/advise in stopping and also dealing with the consequences of having this destructive (for me anyways) habit. Would also be good to find people to relate to since I feel I'm alone in this - there's loads of books/help for guys that are ever straight and want to get free from watching straight porn or guys that are fully gay and want to stop watching gay porn.

I've been hooked on gay porn for 20 years now, but don't see myself as gay as I've never had a gay relationship or even a gay experience with another guy. I've only ever approached girls that I'm attracted to. However, being hooked on gay porn for so long affects my friendships and relationships plus all the other consequences of watching porn and I really want to get rid of this distructive habit for good.
The flavor of the porn is irrelevant, unless its illegal of course. Its about the dopamine blast and as we progress(or digress depending on POV) into porn/PMO the flavors tend to get more and more outrageous and extreme because what we began with over time doesnt deliver a big enough hit. In reality we are using drugs and it takes more and more to get us the same high. Having said that the same strategy to quit works regardless of what you were looking at, just like some others have said.
 
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