Getting rid of Premature Ejaculation (PE) and rebooting my brain

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Ziga4477

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Before i start, thank you already for reading this. O yes and pardon my English.

So, i will make my introduction short. I am 21 years old and i have been struggling with PE for about 3 years now. It all started with my first sex experience at the age of 18. But of course i had been watching porn since 12 years old. I do not consider myself as a porn addict but i think have watched enough porn in my life that has messed up my way i look at sex. I think the problem is i only concentrate on ejaculation rather then the hole experience of sex. The bigger problem was, that the hole thing has started to cause anxiety. For the last year, all my focus goes to sex, sex thoughts and masturbation. I feel the need to mastrubate just because i cant stop thinking of it and those same sex thoughts about everything.
Every time i talk to women i start the same thinking " would she like if she knew..." or " or sime kind of sex thoughts involving her" ... Im scared im addicted to those kind of thinking rather than porn. Bur of course watching porn and other trigers has been effecting me. Anyway, i think this anxiety has starting to get real, it has stared to affect all aspects of my life. Everywhere i go, same kind of thinking same kind of feeling afraid of something i dont know WHAT!! To keep this short, i believe that quitting porn, and quitting or just minimizing MO would help and have some kind of benefits. I have try to quit all ready but of course i failed.
So i decided to try it like this, with you guys!!
I happy to hear your tips or anything!
Promise i will keep my next reports short;)

Thank you!!!
 
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Ziga4477

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soo today is day 7. Almost relapsed. Saw something on Instagram and it took me on some adult twitter account... i stopped and closed it 10 minutes and went directly to here, to write this so i can see my progress and stay motivated. i realised IG is one of my biggest triggers.
Anyway i think there are some hard days ahead of me.
 
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Fappy

Respected Member
well odne for making it a week! a week is a long time at the start of the reboot. and well done for stopping that trigger!
 
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AJM

Active Member
Ziga4477 said:
Before i start, thank you already for reading this. O yes and pardon my English.

So, i will make my introduction short. I am 21 years old and i have been struggling with PE for about 3 years now. It all started with my first sex experience at the age of 18. But of course i had been watching porn since 12 years old. I do not consider myself as a porn addict but i think have watched enough porn in my life that has messed up my way i look at sex. I think the problem is i only concentrate on ejaculation rather then the hole experience of sex. The bigger problem was, that the hole thing has started to cause anxiety. For the last year, all my focus goes to sex, sex thoughts and masturbation. I feel the need to mastrubate just because i cant stop thinking of it and those same sex thoughts about everything.
Every time i talk to women i start the same thinking " would she like if she knew..." or " or sime kind of sex thoughts involving her" ... Im scared im addicted to those kind of thinking rather than porn. Bur of course watching porn and other trigers has been effecting me. Anyway, i think this anxiety has starting to get real, it has stared to affect all aspects of my life. Everywhere i go, same kind of thinking same kind of feeling afraid of something i dont know WHAT!! To keep this short, i believe that quitting porn, and quitting or just minimizing MO would help and have some kind of benefits. I have try to quit all ready but of course i failed.
So i decided to try it like this, with you guys!!
I happy to hear your tips or anything!
Promise i will keep my next reports short;)

Thank you!!!
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Hey Ziga , welcome to the forum.
Yes as you have already realized you are facing Porn addictions issues - reeboting n rewiring is the way ahead.
Congratulations on ur 7 day steak ,
Watching porn or its substitutes is big NO in the process. Once you are triggered high chances of relaprsing in next couple of days.
Stay aware of your slips. More power to you.
 
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Ziga4477

Member
10 days without MO and feeling better. I am very occupied with my summer job and i find that very helpful. This way im staying away from my triggers. Still, im 21 and sometimes i dont even need triggers😅...
 
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Ziga4477

Member
Ajinkya said:
Hey Ziga , welcome to the forum.
Yes as you have already realized you are facing Porn addictions issues - reeboting n rewiring is the way ahead.
Congratulations on ur 7 day steak ,
Watching porn or its substitutes is big NO in the process. Once you are triggered high chances of relaprsing in next couple of days.
Stay aware of your slips. More power to you.
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thank you!! and yes i agree, every trigger is dangerous
 
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Andrew Wiggin

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Ziga4477 said:
10 days without MO and feeling better. I am very occupied with my summer job and i find that very helpful. This way im staying away from my triggers. Still, im 21 and sometimes i dont even need triggers😅...
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Hey Ziga4477,

Congrats on your 10 days my friend! And yes, it is true what you say about not needing triggers; remember, that's because your brain can be the main trigger, the brain with its capability of imagination is the first sex organ. It is really hard at times to control it, specially since we have fed it with so much porn and ugly images. To restore it to a normal, healthy functioning now you must feed it with healthy things.
I can't recommend enough good reading; grab some good, healthy novels, even very simple but good stuff like The Hobbit or Harry Potter, so that your imagination works with healthy material and that your brain can regain its normal way of behaving, and so that your imagination is not stuck with porn. Give your brain interesting and beautiful things to work with.

The concept of reebot is the rewiring, but rewiring cannot only be passive as in staying away from porn; that is the absolute first and necessary step, but you must be active as well. Feed good stuff to your brain and keep it active. And you will also be surprised how much you will learn along the way. As Gabe Deem put it in the Basics of Reebooting video, you will find yourself doing more productive things instead of staring at bad pixels on a screen.

Stay strong brother,

Andrew Wiggin
 
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Ziga4477

Member
Andrew Wiggin said:
Hey Ziga4477,

Congrats on your 10 days my friend! And yes, it is true what you say about not needing triggers; remember, that's because your brain can be the main trigger, the brain with its capability of imagination is the first sex organ. It is really hard at times to control it, specially since we have fed it with so much porn and ugly images. To restore it to a normal, healthy functioning now you must feed it with healthy things.
I can't recommend enough good reading; grab some good, healthy novels, even very simple but good stuff like The Hobbit or Harry Potter, so that your imagination works with healthy material and that your brain can regain its normal way of behaving, and so that your imagination is not stuck with porn. Give your brain interesting and beautiful things to work with.

The concept of reebot is the rewiring, but rewiring cannot only be passive as in staying away from porn; that is the absolute first and necessary step, but you must be active as well. Feed good stuff to your brain and keep it active. And you will also be surprised how much you will learn along the way. As Gabe Deem put it in the Basics of Reebooting video, you will find yourself doing more productive things instead of staring at bad pixels on a screen.

Stay strong brother,

Andrew Wiggin
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Yes, i couldnt agree more. Imagination is a huge problem for me. And yes, reading books is very helpful. When i started reading i decided to change things in my life. This is one of them, probably the biggest one.
Thank you for the support!!
You too stay strong and hope to hear from you soon ;)!!
 
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Ziga4477

Member
Well today was the day. I do not consider this a relapse. Or should i? I just MO without porn. There wasnt any triggers. I was just in bed and home alone and was feeling very good and it just happened. I feel very good actually. Dont have any regrets or anything. I just have to be careful in the near future. I sad at the start od this journal, that i dont want to quit MO i just need a different approach to it. I dont want it to be the center of my life... will see in the upcoming days if this was a bad thing. I hope not.
 
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smeagle44

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My humble opinion is that MO is not bad, unless it starts to become compulsive and out of control. For me, MO started becoming compulsive and I would do it 3 or 4 times in a row, and that's when I decided I had to quit MO as well. I'm now 95 days clean of P and MO
 
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Ziga4477

Member
Yes i have the same opinion about MO and i think i had and still have a problem with it. Still is the center of my attention and i hate that. I know i have to be careful now. Whats interesting to me is that, after 10 days od no MO the need for it was not that big as it is today, the next day. But i wont get angry at myself because of it. The main and the first thing for me is to stay away from P and any other similar content and at the same time get MO out of my head. It is a long journey with ups and downs.
 
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Ziga4477

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weird couple of days for me. So Friday and Saturday i MO. Still without P and also without any imagination. Had some triggers also but i managed to beat them. Today is the 16th day without MO to porn. If i manage to go 30 days with this two "fails" i think it will still be a good first month. I realised that my main triggers is IG and of course my own head. I still get triggered very easy. Long road a head of me but this road never ends it is a new way of life!!
 
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Ziga4477

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Weell fuck... just as i wrote i think im doing good. I somehow ended up on some erotic twitter account. I can not believe how weird is this, that your brain is telling you cmon stop watching it and at the same time you cant. So in a way i relapsed. Im very sad and anxious.

Sooo back to day 0 i guess
 
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Ziga4477

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i actually have a weird feeling in my balls and p... sorry for writing this but i have to publish those kind of things, to get it all out so i remember the felling next time im in the same position.
 
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