DickPalmer
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Hi,
I'm trying to quit PMO at a pretty senior age of 52, having used porn for close to 35 years and internet porn for around 20 years, so it's no easy task.
I have an avoidant attachment (https://www.verywellmind.com/attachment-styles-2795344), mainly I think because my mother had PND. As a result, I believe I have anxiety, in the same way that my mother did, but have masked it for years because the PMO, whether with porn or not, has 'masked' my anxiety, i.e. PMO has helped me to regulate my stress and anxiety, but now that I have taken it away, the anxiety feels absolutely dreadful. I have quit because of damage to my relationships caused by porn (I have a divorce to contemplate), but now find that the very thing I was using to manage my anxiety is the very thing I can't use, or more accurately what I could use but am working really hard NOT to use.
Has anyone else got any experience of managing anxiety and stress with PMO, and how did you cope with the anxiety when you quit?
I'm trying to quit PMO at a pretty senior age of 52, having used porn for close to 35 years and internet porn for around 20 years, so it's no easy task.
I have an avoidant attachment (https://www.verywellmind.com/attachment-styles-2795344), mainly I think because my mother had PND. As a result, I believe I have anxiety, in the same way that my mother did, but have masked it for years because the PMO, whether with porn or not, has 'masked' my anxiety, i.e. PMO has helped me to regulate my stress and anxiety, but now that I have taken it away, the anxiety feels absolutely dreadful. I have quit because of damage to my relationships caused by porn (I have a divorce to contemplate), but now find that the very thing I was using to manage my anxiety is the very thing I can't use, or more accurately what I could use but am working really hard NOT to use.
Has anyone else got any experience of managing anxiety and stress with PMO, and how did you cope with the anxiety when you quit?
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