Does orgasm slow down the recover process

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I’m 122 days PMO on hard mode. I have a good grasp over my porn addiction and now going through the rewire phase. My wife and I have intimate time once a week as of recent to reconnect both physically and mentally. Last week I had an orgasm not from penetration and went through a flatline afterwards. I know getting your partner involved with this process helps the recovery period but I don’t want to have a flatline each time. Maybe my D need to get use to orgasm from my wife instead of porn stars. I need to find a happy balance as its important to have my wife involved to get use to normal touch and arousal.

It still baffles me that I could masturbate multiple times a week fully erect and struggle to have sex once with my wife. Its helps to be able to vent on this forum to relive mental stress of this process. It also helps to read other people success stories and the struggles to get to that point.

 

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I’m 122 days PMO on hard mode. I have a good grasp over my porn addiction and now going through the rewire phase. My wife and I have intimate time once a week as of recent to reconnect both physically and mentally. Last week I had an orgasm not from penetration and went through a flatline afterwards. I know getting your partner involved with this process helps the recovery period but I don’t want to have a flatline each time. Maybe by D need to get use to orgasm from my wife instead of porn stars. I need to find a happy balance as its important to have my wife involved to get use to normal touch and arousal.

It still baffles me that I could masturbate multiple times a week fully erect and struggle to have sex once with my wife. Its helps to be able to vent on this forum to relive mental stress of this process. It also helps to read other people success stories and the struggles to get to that point.

Hey man , I think since you already went over 4 months on hard mode it’s fine to have orgasms. Gabe said in one of his videos he recommends to strt off with atleast 2-3 months no orgasm but then it’s ok to re introduce them. He even mentioned in one of his videos that once he started having orgasms with his gf he would go into a flatline too. But he said that after each orgasm the flatlines became shorter and shorter. As long as you don’t over do it and keep it at like once a week in the beginung then you’re fine. I don’t think anyone should overthink it in a situation like this and since youre orgasming with you’re wife that’s the whole point of rewiring.

 

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Thank you for the feedback. I have to enjoy the moment and not over analyze it. I was avoiding intimacy for awhile during my recovery period until I felt I had better control over my porn addiction. Connecting with my wife weekly is a step in the right direction for completing the rewiring process.

 

[Chrisaaa7]

Thank you for the feedback. I have to enjoy the moment and not over analyze it. I was avoiding intimacy for awhile during my recovery period until I felt I had better control over my porn addiction. Connecting with my wife weekly is a step in the right direction for completing the rewiring process.

Exactly, I’m currently one month into my reboot and I have stronger errevtions with my gf but I defineltly have the problem of overthinking as well. And also when you think about it, if you’re orgasms are with your wife, it’s hard to say that’s harmful in anyway because that’s the end goal and something we all want to achieve. So yeah man have fun , don’t overthink, and enjoy it!