Hi all,
my partner and I have been going through the rebooting process together for about a year now.
A lot of things have improved massively.
However, there is several challenges our relationship still faces.
The main one is his lack of arousal/libido and I wonder if anybody has some advise.
He seems to have no to very little libido for about 7 months and he says he cannot really remember the last time he's been really aroused.
Obviously for me this is really hard to cope with and to not take personal.
We try to find a way in which both of our needs are being met while healing (as both of us have no clue how long all this is still going to take).
Whereas he thinks it's just part of the process of a very long flatline, I have the feeling that he is under a lot of pressure, that he is scared to disappoint me or to not live up to my expectations sexually and that this might maintain his low libido. I believe that his low libido might be kind of an avoidance of these disappointing sexual experiences within our relationship. Therefore, I think we have to find a way to take off all the pressure off him.
On the other hand, I am quite a sexual person and feel like my needs have been dismissed for so long...
And that's where the issue lies. How can we solve this?
Has anybody any ideas or thoughts?
Has anybody experienced such a long period of no to little libido and how did you manage it as singles or within a relationship?
Grateful about any input!
my partner and I have been going through the rebooting process together for about a year now.
A lot of things have improved massively.
However, there is several challenges our relationship still faces.
The main one is his lack of arousal/libido and I wonder if anybody has some advise.
He seems to have no to very little libido for about 7 months and he says he cannot really remember the last time he's been really aroused.
Obviously for me this is really hard to cope with and to not take personal.
We try to find a way in which both of our needs are being met while healing (as both of us have no clue how long all this is still going to take).
Whereas he thinks it's just part of the process of a very long flatline, I have the feeling that he is under a lot of pressure, that he is scared to disappoint me or to not live up to my expectations sexually and that this might maintain his low libido. I believe that his low libido might be kind of an avoidance of these disappointing sexual experiences within our relationship. Therefore, I think we have to find a way to take off all the pressure off him.
On the other hand, I am quite a sexual person and feel like my needs have been dismissed for so long...
And that's where the issue lies. How can we solve this?
Has anybody any ideas or thoughts?
Has anybody experienced such a long period of no to little libido and how did you manage it as singles or within a relationship?
Grateful about any input!
