Do you have issues with craving girls you see on the street?

[wierdsquirrel]

Hi,

I have a girlfriend and recently I'm experiencing a flatline sexually, but the thing is whenever I see a hot girl on the street I feel a deep desire to have her.
I remember I always felt like I mised something when seeing a pretty girl on the street and not approach her.
This was a thing I conditioned myself in the past by doing street pickup but I think the conditioning might actually be porn induced mainly, as I see women as objects and I feel a strong regret I'm not instantly flirting with that girl and therefore I end up resenting my girlfriend and comparing her to them.

Has anyone experienced this and if so, has it disappeared after the reboot is completed?

Thanks

 

[DLS184]

First of all, welcome to the community and bro damn.. you’re next level
And yes I feel the same way like you.
Before I quit porn I had a lot of “Fondnesses” and now while I’m in the second month of reboot I realize how I treated women before
Sure my ex gfs wanted hard, but now I realize that’s my mind was manipulated by porn and now I see women in an other way

So no, when you’re realize that you see women as objects, this is the first step

 

[wierdsquirrel]

First of all, welcome to the community and bro damn.. you’re next level
And yes I feel the same way like you.
Before I quit porn I had a lot of “Fondnesses” and now while I’m in the second month of reboot I realize how I treated women before
Sure my ex gfs wanted hard, but now I realize that’s my mind was manipulated by porn and now I see women in an other way

So no, when you’re realize that you see women as objects, this is the first step

Thanks for the encouragement, how has your attraction to women evolved?

 

[DLS184]

I started to see woman as human, not objects for lust
I lived like a “harems king” a long time and now while I’m rebooting I realize what a a**hole I was and I overthought my mindset in everything

 

[Fappy]

oh god yes! i was such a creep. (although some people would argue that i still am...)
i used to look and stare and even get closer to them in order to afford myself a better (and creepier) look. i cringe inwardly when i remember how fucked up i was (although some people would argue that i still am...)
it passes though after you wake up up to exactly what it is that youre doing. it seems like youve already woken up about it.

 

[ben_HE]

I have that problem, I still can't get over it, every time I see a hot girl, I want to have her, I get nervous and start to see her, I am restarting, however the thoughts are what I am now learning to control, neuroplasticity is impressive of the brain, but there is still a long way to go.

 

[wierdsquirrel]

I have that problem, I still can't get over it, every time I see a hot girl, I want to have her, I get nervous and start to see her, I am restarting, however the thoughts are what I am now learning to control, neuroplasticity is impressive of the brain, but there is still a long way to go.

How long have you been free of prn so far?

 

[wierdsquirrel]

I'd like to add that the sense of entitlement that P has can fuel this, at least in my case. The belief that I deserve to have sex with these women, under the logic that I've pleasured myself to women (who I also was not in a relationship with) on a screen before. It's yet another example of our feeble brains confusing PMO with mating

I totally agree prn is the main culprit here and makes you feel like a god. When you don't get to fuk a random woman on the street our primal part gets mad and we feel like we're losing status somehow. Question is, will just quitting prn help fix this? Have you seen any improvement?

 

[CBU]

I have been clean now for 30 days and have observed that I may still occasionally fantasize about sex when seeing good looking women on the streets and trying to get eye contact (Don't actually know why?), but have stopped overly obsessing about it and I can now even admire the architecture when I walk the streets, which sounds crazy but I feel like I can now appreciate every little aspect of life, not just beautiful women. I know my 30 days is still somewhat the beginning, but I definitely recognize how objectified I've looked at women all these years, so yeah I think this phenomenon is largely due to Porn and I have seen a great improvement in the way I see reality.

 

[wierdsquirrel]

I have been clean now for 30 days and have observed that I may still occasionally fantasize about sex when seeing good looking women on the streets and trying to get eye contact (Don't actually know why?), but have stopped overly obsessing about it and I can now even admire the architecture when I walk the streets, which sounds crazy but I feel like I can now appreciate every little aspect of life, not just beautiful women. I know my 30 days is still somewhat the beginning, but I definitely recognize how objectified I've looked at women all these years, so yeah I think this phenomenon is largely due to Porn and I have seen a great improvement in the way I see reality.

That sounds great! Congratulations on your improvement and keep going!