i want to live like i want to !

[quitster]

Yeah i have read this post  and its actually very good and  learnt alot from it and  i have started a book to record my progress in quitting PMO and note down important facts in the book. its my 4th day with the book and it actually really helps i would recommend everyone who is in the fight of quitting PMO to try it. And thanks keep posting guys 

 

[quitster]

 

[quitster]

I have set a goal of 30 days and i will update very day of my 30 days and what i feel like and what i am doing to keep going so pl support me guys we can all fight this together 

 

[horpio]

Rooting for you buddy. I'm glad you started a counter, it helps. I'll be here looking out for those posts. You can do it, and we'll be here to support you. You can do this. Weekends are the most difficult - my experience. Hang in there, if you follow your dreams you'll have a more fulfilling life. You will become a better partner, friend, student, sportsman; whatever it is that floats your boat  8)

 

[quitster]

Day 1
So today was good i have read the forums on the page and installed  web protection (even though its not completely protective) so it can at least help me a bit and have started meditation heard it was really good for your brain and helps you to control your emotions a lot these are just the beginning steps im taking to achieve my goal of 30 days

 

[quitster]

Day 2
Today i relapsed, and i feel very bad about it  :'( but at the end of the day im not perfect so i started again. Its takes a lot of courage and determination to rise from failure. I have learned that loneliness is the red  carpet entry to pornography as that was the cause to my relapse
but slowly im making progress and i can see that cause if i compare my self to the very first i watched porn and now i have come a long way the progress may not be "PERFECT" but i did make progress and that's something i can be proud and happy  about but still i know i have a very long and difficult road ahead of me and i will give it my best to achieve my goal of 30 days without PMO

 

[Poker]

Everybody stumbles along the way...  its how we come back that counts.

I'm 44.  I let this go on for decades.  The fact that you understand that PMO is not healthy at your age is huge my friend.  This is beatable.... 

Start replacing one bad habit for one good habit is about the best advise I can give.  Educate yourself, and watch the videos.

Cheers,

p.

 

[quitster]

Day 3
i started of with the morning exercise it helped me get s fresh start to the day and i made promises to my self that i wont watch porn for 30 days and i know a promise is not enough so im reading articles online and educating my self of how porn effects our brains and also started writing a book about my life and what i want to achieve. These are just a few positive things im doing for my reboot. Hang in there guys anything is possible we just have keep trying and never give up and always give it our best 

 

[horpio]

Hey buddy, sounds good. The exercise in the morning, educating yourself and the private journal. Double thumbs up for that. You increase the possibility of achieving your goals multiple times when you pencil it in and review it frequently.
I agree with Poker

Everybody stumbles along the way...  its how we come back that counts.
I'm 44.  I let this go on for decades.  The fact that you understand that PMO is not healthy at your age is huge my friend.  This is beatable.... 
Start replacing one bad habit for one good habit is about the best advise I can give.  Educate yourself, and watch the videos.

Hang in there, you are making definite progress. 

 

[quitster]

Day 3
So today was good i started with my usual morning workout and focusing on my health with starting a new diet. Im always keeping myself busy and fixing small stuff in my life like cleaning my room working on my health and not much on my school work because i have school holidays right now but my book is going pretty good it makes me feel alot better and meditation helps alot also i recommend everyone to try it. And also educating my self of the harms of PMO and reading a lot books.
Keep posting guys if we share our thoughts on PMO we can have a story from every aspect.

 

[Newborn Brain]

Congrats, quitster!

Although young, you sound very mature, looking this sick behavior in the eyes and not lying to yourself, admitting your failures, and taking responsibility for your acts!

If you keep doing this, health is only a matter of time.

Myself, at 42 years old, wish I had known before what I know now. But, I thank heavenly Father that I am able to speak different languages and can have access to such useful resources like RN and YBOP, and other material available on the net.

It's been really hard to keep away from M, much more than from P.

I think it is because I feel sexually atracted by men, but am married to a woman - so, I don't feel like having sex with her, because it doesn't please me as much as having sex with men.

But back in 1998 I decided to do so changes in my life and start my own pursuit of happiness... So, one of the things I had to let go was my sexual pleasure with men, because it didn't feel right for me...

I wanted to be in peace with God, but this behavior (having sex with men) took me away from Him..

I don't know if you can relate to that (I am talking about the spiritual side, not the sexual side, because I know that you are hetero), but somehow you know that PMO take you away from a healthy life style and a healthy life style for me include be in peace with God...

Educating myself on how my brain is affected by P has been a tremendous positive influence in my building a better future for myself.

I don't want live like a zombie! I too wanna live a good life, achieve my professional, personal, spiritual, financial, educational goals.

P has destroyed a lot of my self-esteem and ability to do good things, especially for the people around me - one of my greatest realizations is being able to help others develop and grow... And I absolutely cannot do that when I am defeated by PMO...

Funny thing is: the more I let go of PMO, the more I understand myself and know myself. Its getting clearer and clearer the mistakes I have been doing in my life that prevent me today to have total happiness...

I am reaaaaaaaallllyyyy glad that you could see this all in such a young age!

Your happiness is mine, too!!!

Choose a good life, man! Choose to live like you want to!

You can do that because there is a great gift called LIBERTY TO CHOOSE - FREEDOM OF CHOICE.

And remember: we are free TO choose, but not FROM the consequences...

Wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart!

Greeting from sunny Brazil!

 

[quitster]

Wow really thanks man for being completely honest and outgoing it really helped alot and YES i feel very lucky that i realised at a very young age and have the opportunity to talk such great people all around the world about PMO and of course websites like these are soo great to express our true feelings and aspects of PMO.

 

[quitster]

Day 4
I got really strong urges today and i mean really strong but i just ran out the house and stood in my back yard and and prayed to God to help me and aftr a few min it worked slowly but surely the urge went away. People who are trying really hard to fight PMO try taking God's side and just pray and believe and for sue you will feel better. Im spending atleast 30 min on reboot nation and your brain on porn everyday im just trying to put in as many good habits as i can to get away PMO out of my life for good. Dont lose hope guys and NEVER GIVE UP!

 

[Newborn Brain]

Congrats, quitster!

I relate to your experience of seeking the help of God.

It really helps.

The urges will always be there, but the more you understand that they come when you feel stressed, lonely, weary, anxious, and the like, you'll be more capable of finding out better ways to cope with that.

Talking to somebody about how you're feeling or writing down your feelings can also help you a lot.

I will pray for you, too, when I pray for myself today, and for all of us who are trying to be better people - and free people!

Love you!

Greetings from cloudy Brazil!

 

[quitster]

Day 4
first of all sorry i wasnt consistent with my updating, so day 4 was good im slowly starting to feel better from in and out and slowly gaining confidence but still afcource the urges are there but im controlling them really well and i have made BIG promises to my self that i wont do PMO for 1 week for now and if i go 1 week without PMO i will make another big promise for another 1 week and yes i know promises are not enough so im continuing my habits of visiting yourbrainonporn.com and reeboot everyday and also writing my book. So its going good so far and i hope and pray to reach my goal of 30 days without PMO and thanks everyone for the support 

 

[horpio]

Hey buddy. Congratulations on your progress. I'm happy to see you here more often.
What do you think is your biggest struggle at this stage? I like that you write in a journal. Doing that helped me to get my thoughts out on paper. There is something therapeutic about the process.

Can I share some experience about promising yourself to do or not do certain things. My experience is that once I failed to keep the promise of no PMO, it affected my self-image. It made me feel bad about myself, and that state of mind made it easier for me to indulge in PMO untill I got so sick of myself that I decided to try and come clean again. When I felt bad about myself, my resistance was so low. I had to find easier goals to meet. Like cutting out junk food in my life. That way I proved to myself that I could actually make promises to myself and stick to them. That in turn built up my confidence in myself and enabled me to tackle more serious promises. I had to learn, and am still learning the good things about me. The things that I can feel proud of. Each one of us has those and we can remind ourselves of them in order to build our self esteem. 

Might I add that during my goal of not wanting to PMO, I still allowed myself to masturbate. Once I did that, I soon after went back to PMO. 

Wish you the best of the best.

 

[quitster]

Heloooo every one soo very soryy for not updating but im happy to say that i went clean without pmo for almost a month
now and im feeling great but i know im not fully out of it yet but im doing good    ;D

 

[Poker]

That is great news! 

Cheers,

p.

 

[horpio]

im happy to say that i went clean without pmo for almost a month now and im feeling great but i know im not fully out of it yet but im doing good    ;D

Congratulations Q. Keep up the good job  8)