49 days without PMO, but yesterday sex with my girlfriend

NewMan10

Member
Hello, good day to everyone. I have 49 days free of porn, masturbation and orgasm. Yesterday I was home alone and my girlfriend visited me, one thing led to another and we had sex, I even ejaculated (orgasm). Does this represent a relapse? I don't want to spoil these 45 days because it's my longest streak :(
 
Excellent, Excellent, Excellent. Put on a happy face. Get rid of that sad one. You are moving in the right and correct direction. Look, PMOing is a means to a neuropsycholigical end, a dopamine high. Getting that high, pursuing it, can become what some call addictive. That addiction can also cause problems, a big problem of which is the "seeming" inablility to quit. It was and will always be quitable, but for people here the big jedi mind trick is convincing themselves of that.

So, no, it is not a relapse. People here throw the word "relapse" around like it a thing. A true relapse is getting totally free then deciding to go back. That's not you, you have not gone back, you have gone forward. While, for most, I reccomend no sex during the reboot, if you are successfuly having sex during the reboot, while not going back to PMO, it is perfectly acceptable. This place is not anti sex, it is anti porn addiction, and the two are quite distinct things. If you can get a dopamine high the natural way, perfectly fine. You are here trying to get nornal. Don't ever be sad about moving toward normal. Head up, eyes forward, keep pushing ahead.

Much love.

WILL.
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
Hello, good day to everyone. I have 49 days free of porn, masturbation and orgasm. Yesterday I was home alone and my girlfriend visited me, one thing led to another and we had sex, I even ejaculated (orgasm). Does this represent a relapse? I don't want to spoil these 45 days because it's my longest streak :(
Dude the point of reboot is to get functional penis and reable yourself to be intimate again.How can sex set your progress back when it is the exact thing you want to reach ? Sex can only shorten your reboot
 

Fappy

Respected Member
not a relapse. you were able to get and maintain an erection in order to successfully split your girlfriend in two. there was no artificial stimuli, no porn.
no porn, no relapse.
 

SteP

Member
The people have spoken: this is not a relapse. One of the reasons why quitting porn is beneficial is to allow people to build healthy relationships, and a relevant part of it is to be able to have great sex with your partner.

However, be aware that in the following 2-3 days you might experience the "chaser effect", a state of heightened arousal that can lead to masturbating to porn. Now, that would be a relapse.
 
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