Getting to the point where I’m so sexually frustrated. My brain is starting to play tricks on me. Fantasizing when I don’t want it to. I do what I need to to get the thoughts to go away. I see a women with great firm legs in leather and I start counting to remind myself I need to look away from my triggers. It works kinda. I have noticed I’m getting stronger. Looking away faster. At a lower number. But now my dreams start betraying me. I was trapped in their pants, I could not get them off. So no matter how many times I tried to start counting , it wouldn’t help if I looked down or moved or walked. I fought with myself a lot this morning to get the thought away. Was so tempted to look up women in them. I went to my complex gym and worked out to clear my head. Woman came in and I had to leave 2 minutes in. Some days are Just So Hard!!!!! Need new ideas
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- Thread starter MrTibs
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Suggestion: try not being so hard on yourself for your natural biology. You will notice attractive people. It’s ok and normal. Maybe instead of trying to quickly look away, just notice. Appreciate the beauty and then move on to the next moment. I could be wrong, but feeling ashamed about things we have evolved to notice might set you up for constant, unnecessary shame.
Fappy
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It seems like you’ve got a good handle on things, avoiding triggers, and a no-tolerance approach to physical temptations such as being in the presence of an attractive woman. This is good. You might just need a little more time, after a while it should sort itself out naturally.
Really noticed the amount of sexual content on TV now. Even in Pg shows. I try hard to keep a handle on things. I surround myself with people I care for and love so that I do not get tempted to wonder my eyes, but my dreams are still fighting me. Porn made me feel I was beta . I mean, I guess it’s my subconscious fighting about quiting and wanting to just look just one more time. Wanting to say it wasn’t my fault. Someone made me do it. I am getting past this. Feeing stronger every day. Recognizing that helps me I guess. Writing it out helps too. Reading what I wrote helps me see how silly it sounds.