Asking about what is on the other side

[robertmb1208]

Just joined this community. I had been a virgin until meeting my girlfriend recently. Initially I wasn't able to have sex and thought COVID was the reason since I had gotten it a week before. I stopped looking at porn for several months after (more for religious reasons) and then discovered I still couldn't when my girlfriend visited in the summer (long distance relationship). Then I discovered that I could more easily ejaculate to porn and found YBOP thanks to another coach I am still talking to (she is not a specialist in this area though). Since then it became harder to completely stop but I have now managed to go from 12/06 to now without looking at any. I officially had sex for the first time a few weeks ago with her thx to some viagra (Also I am 36 years old) but it didn't feel like it should have for me. I have ejaculated around her but mostly just relied on Oral and fingering around her. She is being supportive but I know wants more from me and so do I. Assuming I do continue this route and move forward not seeing any, when am I going to be able to feel anywhere close to how I felt with porn? I honestly probably have no idea how good sex is even supposed to feel. I obviously still hadn't gotten over the issues despite about 4 months of not seeing porn? How is being a virgin going to impact this? I started looking at Porn when I was close to 17 and did manage to reduce my consumption from 3 times daily to 1-3 times weekly before I started completely going off of it last year.

 

[reboot_8716]

Sex with any partner usually takes some time to get into a good rhythm before it can become really good. So keep at it, but don’t have crazy expectations. The more comfortable you get with each other the more you will start to explore trying new things and generally finding what turns each other on.

 

[Fappy]

when will sex ever feel as good as jerking off to porn? simple: it wont.
sex cant top the dopamine spike that is released by porn. the seeking after the perfect video, opening multiple windows, the desire to keep looking in case there is a better video to jerk to, then the actual jerking itself... that whole process. thats why some guys who are rebooting have reported to actually prefer looking at porn over sex with their partner! it sounds really weird but its true. it happened to me.
the good news is that once you stop porn, your dopamine receptors will return to normal and sex will be great!

 

[reboot_8716]

when will sex ever feel as good as jerking off to porn? simple: it wont.
sex cant top the dopamine spike that is released by porn. the seeking after the perfect video, opening multiple windows, the desire to keep looking in case there is a better video to jerk to, then the actual jerking itself... that whole process. thats why some guys who are rebooting have reported to actually prefer looking at porn over sex with their partner! it sounds really weird but its true. it happened to me.
the good news is that once you stop porn, your dopamine receptors will return to normal and sex will be great!

Yep. The brain watching tube porn is thinking that you’re literally having sex with a new or different women every time you fast forward or switch videos. It’s like having an orgy with dozens of people in the span of 10 minutes.

 

[Stiffy999]

Just joined this community. I had been a virgin until meeting my girlfriend recently. Initially I wasn't able to have sex and thought COVID was the reason since I had gotten it a week before. I stopped looking at porn for several months after (more for religious reasons) and then discovered I still couldn't when my girlfriend visited in the summer (long distance relationship). Then I discovered that I could more easily ejaculate to porn and found YBOP thanks to another coach I am still talking to (she is not a specialist in this area though). Since then it became harder to completely stop but I have now managed to go from 12/06 to now without looking at any. I officially had sex for the first time a few weeks ago with her thx to some viagra (Also I am 36 years old) but it didn't feel like it should have for me. I have ejaculated around her but mostly just relied on Oral and fingering around her. She is being supportive but I know wants more from me and so do I. Assuming I do continue this route and move forward not seeing any, when am I going to be able to feel anywhere close to how I felt with porn? I honestly probably have no idea how good sex is even supposed to feel. I obviously still hadn't gotten over the issues despite about 4 months of not seeing porn? How is being a virgin going to impact this? I started looking at Porn when I was close to 17 and did manage to reduce my consumption from 3 times daily to 1-3 times weekly before I started completely going off of it last year.

Well,I don't know about your case but for me PMO never felt that good,it was just a release with short lasting orgasm max 3-4 seconds.
With partner is much different story.As the time passes you become closer to each other explore things that both of you like and orgasms become much better and longer than any PMO orgasm can ever be.You just need confidence and relaxed mind and of course loving partner.

 

[reboot_8716]

Well,I don't know about your case but for me PMO never felt that good,it was just a release with short lasting orgasm max 3-4 seconds.
With partner is much different story.As the time passes you become closer to each other explore things that both of you like and orgasms become much better and longer than any PMO orgasm can ever be.You just need confidence and relaxed mind and of course loving partner.

This is absolutely true.

 

[otanerferguson]

I felt "fixed" six months into the reboot, but I have only started to feel as kinky with my wife as I did with porn a year afterwards.