Day 4
After going to sleep early I woke up and did not have any urges. Although when I do wake up I am always grabbing myself. I guess it’s to make sure it didn’t fall off while I was sleeping. I have never really been one to PMO in the morning, but have in the past on occasion. Breakfast, pack lunch, drive to work, miss my first turn, park, walk in, be “productive”, and then head home.
Sometimes while I have been at work I have had the urge to watch porn. I have in the past, but with me wanting to be clean now I just focused on what I had to do and keep my mind out of it.
Called a friend on the way home and he communicated he is stressed about his small business. I wanted to say to him,”hey don’t cope with the stress like I do by jerking off.” Then again he is a “normal”. I’m a person that uses PMO to relieve stress. Which at the end of our conversation I showered and THOUGHT about pleasuring myself, but in better judgement said no. After all I was on my way headed to my house to help my family . Our older daughter was sent home from day care with a fever.
I arrived at the house and really was feeling good. I resisted wanting to relax and unwind from porn and was just feeling really in an overall good mood. I still am right now. Prepared dinner for the family and sat down and we talked and had a good time. Almost as if the past month of me being separated from my wife never happened.
My wife and I started to talk alone and the conversation was normal. I was speaking what was on my mind and it was great. While actively using porn I have a shitty attitude and I lie to her. I have nothing to lie about now. I made her smile and it made me smile. I was happy.
After all was done we hugged goodnight and I got a goodnight peck on the cheek which was the first time she kissed me since the night everything came to a head.(I kissed her a week after we were separated and that was not a good thing). My drive home I spoke with a friend that knew thing between my family weren’t good as I usually respond to him when he messages me. We spoke and I was feeling at peace.
As I lay in bed winding down I feel great today in general. I am getting over my cold(which may have been withdrawals who knows) and relaxing. Did I still have an urge to day for porn? Yes. Did I really want to MO? Absolutely. I just mindfully avoided it by focusing my attention to where it really needed to be at the time. I focused more on positives than negatives.