Day 46 - improved erections, working on stamina

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reboot_8716

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46 days porn free. Wow. A record for me since I was a teenager for sure.

Whereas a few months ago I couldn’t get a decent erection even when solo and watching porn I now find I can achieve one that is firmer without any visual stimulation. After taking about a month off from all stimulation and orgasms I am now focused on mindful masturbation and re-orienting my feelings about sex, as well as focusing on building back some stamina that I’ve lost.

im still dealing with a lot of performance anxiety but am also working on that, and I have found that focusing on the sensations and my breathing while masturbating has allowed me to maintain more control over when I orgasm, although a lot of work remains. Im still not having success with my wife, but it’s largely at this point due to anxiety and nerves and no longer a question of whether my member can get hard.

I’m also ridding myself of shame from some of my fantasies and working to find happiness in them without the use of any porn. For my birthday upcoming, my wife’s gotten me a session with a dominatrix for me to indulge in some of my kinks. Im excited and I feel a lot more at ease knowing that I’m focusing on real experiences versus just watching pornography. It also takes pressure off my wife to do those things for me, so we can focus on vanilla intimacy.

overall, feeling good, hopeful for the future, and making progress. Fuck porn, never going back!
 
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Rcgarcia

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reboot_8716 said:
46 days porn free. Wow. A record for me since I was a teenager for sure.

Whereas a few months ago I couldn’t get a decent erection even when solo and watching porn I now find I can achieve one that is firmer without any visual stimulation. After taking about a month off from all stimulation and orgasms I am now focused on mindful masturbation and re-orienting my feelings about sex, as well as focusing on building back some stamina that I’ve lost.

im still dealing with a lot of performance anxiety but am also working on that, and I have found that focusing on the sensations and my breathing while masturbating has allowed me to maintain more control over when I orgasm, although a lot of work remains. Im still not having success with my wife, but it’s largely at this point due to anxiety and nerves and no longer a question of whether my member can get hard.

I’m also ridding myself of shame from some of my fantasies and working to find happiness in them without the use of any porn. For my birthday upcoming, my wife’s gotten me a session with a dominatrix for me to indulge in some of my kinks. Im excited and I feel a lot more at ease knowing that I’m focusing on real experiences versus just watching pornography. It also takes pressure off my wife to do those things for me, so we can focus on vanilla intimacy.

overall, feeling good, hopeful for the future, and making progress. Fuck porn, never going back!
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Your story motivantes me. Thanks for sharing It.
 
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reboot_8716

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Thought I’d share an update here - 65 days now without using pornography! Still going strong, now at the point where I really don’t think too much about it.

I do masturbate still, but I find my erection is way better than it used to be. Not only does it feel fuller and firmer, but I don’t need to constantly stimulate it to keep it up. I can actually take a second and just breathe and watch him staying at attention, which was impossible before.

i can’t say my sexual performance anxiety has gone away, and I still struggle with PE, but it’s definitely better to have one less thing to worry about.
 
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