FetishEngager--no change in addiction

[Fetish_Fiasco]

Hi all, I have a partner with a fetish that he told me about in the beginning however he failed to include that this is something that he needs to do multiple times a day. I thought it was kinky at first then he started sneaking to watch vids EVERY second I leave the house but doesnt want sex at all from me but makes time to masturbate DAILY, and I am feeling disgust and resentment. Anyone have any tips? or can relate just for support.

 

[canguro]

First off, I am very sorry you are experiencing this. I am a recovering porn addict myself and can only talk from this point of view.

It is good you came here and I hope it didn't took to much of a toll on you yet.
He most likely is porn addict. Heavy porn use can induce fetishes. Talk about it with him and show him the TED talk of Gary Wilson on Youtube about porn addiction. Tell him, that you are not okay with how he treats you and that he chooses porn over you.
If he sees he has a problem and he has to change because he is hurting you and damaging himself, you can support him. If he closes up, makes excuses or even tries to blame you, better get the fuck away if you are still able to leave it behind without much damage. My opinion. I'm serious.

If you have questions or want to talk about it, you can reach out to me. Stay strong.

 

[Chuckles]

All I can say from my point of view is this:
I know now how my addiction harmed my previous relationships. Had one of my previous partners addressed this with me, firm, but with kindness and understanding, I probably would have at least heard her and tried to quit. The closest I ever got was exes who didn't like porn, or didn't want me to watch it, but none ever confronted me about my addiction.
I hope it gets better.