Hello! This is going to be my journal as I have just decided that porn is not going to be a part of my life anymore.
I want to start apologizing for my bad English. It is not my main language.
I am 24 now but let's start when I was 10.
I was just a little boy that started to discover his body. I started masturbating with just my imagination. How would I know that would be the start of everything?
At 12 I discovered porn but I did not really like it because I felt it was disgusting because some how internet porn felt so fake to me. I did masturbate with porn sometimes, though. And as time went by, I started 'getting used' and actually enjoying what I used to find a bit disgusting.
It was at 14 that things started to get bad as I got a really good internet connection. I went from masturbating once a week to masturbating every day and then to masturbating multiple times a day. All with porn.
At 15 I got my first girlfriend. After dating her for about a year we started to become sexually active. The funny thing is that she was the one that took the initiative. I was so hooked into porn that, although I got excited when we kissed or hugged, it just never occurred to me that we could have sex (It's a shame I could not see that porn was affecting me that much back then, but now I can see how pathetic porn made me at that time). Sex was fine with her but we split up after a couple of months after we started having sex. I started masturbating even more with porn.
I went to a masturbating machine mode until I was 19 and got another girlfriend. When we tried to have sex I just did not get excited. This was the hardest part of my life I think. She was really cool and stayed with me for about a year. We tried to have sex LOTS of times and we only managed to do it once(The time we managed to do it I was in masturbation abstinence for two weeks). I was so frustrated and depressed that I had to dump her. I went to a stage that I could not trust myself and my body anymore.
So I told everything to my folks and they were very supporting. I saw an urologist and everything was ok with me so he sent me to a sex psychologist. I did not like it at first(it's not easy to tell a woman you are seeing for the first time that you are a porn addict), but after some struggle I can say that she was one of the best things that have ever happened to me. She really changed my life and I started masturbating a lot less. My life improved in all areas. I started going to gym and got fit. My friends and family started liking me more and I went from the worst student of my class to become the top one.
At 21 I got another girlfriend. I really wanted to have sex with her but I did not want to screw everything up again. So I just told her everything that had happened to me since the beginning of our relationship and she was very supportive. I really felt prepared to have sex with her, but I did not want to rush. She was ok with that and so we just started very slowly. Our first few tries failed because I got a little nervous, but soon we managed to do it and it was heaven. We had a great sex life during our relationship. After one year we split up again and I went back to porn.
It was reasonable, though. I was aware of the risks of porn and did not watch so often. I hooked up with a couple of strangers and sex was fine. Though I did not get erections from flirting and kissing them, sex was fine.
At 23 I got another girlfriend (who is still with me). For some strange reason this girl makes me really hard, even just seeing her or listening her voice can get me hard.(much harder than every one before, even though I still see porn). I did not get excited when we tried sex for the first time, though. But from our second time and onward it was the best sex ever. Our sex life is really great and we have great quality sex every time. BUT I was stupid to continue watching porn.
For some reason I continued watching porn. More kinkier porn and really things that I really did not like it: e.g CD/TV porn.
Then sex was still great with her but sometimes I just was unable to orgasm.
I am abroad for quite some time now(will only see my girl on December, and then probably only next September) and I decided to Fully reboot forever. I believe I was partially rebooted when I started to go the psychologist, but now I am going for a Full Reboot. Porn is banned.
I want to fully reboot to become a better man. I know I can't stand to watch any porn at all or I will become addicted again. I do not want this. Porn is not a part of my life from now.
I will start to go to the gym again. I will socialize more. Unfortunately I can't get rid of my computer because I work with it. But from now on I will only use it in public places and I will have porn blocking software. I will post updates here (probably daily).
I am going to do hard mode until I go back to my country. I am not sure what I am going to do when my girl comes to visit me, though. I think I will probably have sex with her, but I want some opinions on that.
I could use a accountability buddy if anyone is interested.
Any tips, comments, feedback, help or asking for help is welcome.
I want to start apologizing for my bad English. It is not my main language.
I am 24 now but let's start when I was 10.
I was just a little boy that started to discover his body. I started masturbating with just my imagination. How would I know that would be the start of everything?
At 12 I discovered porn but I did not really like it because I felt it was disgusting because some how internet porn felt so fake to me. I did masturbate with porn sometimes, though. And as time went by, I started 'getting used' and actually enjoying what I used to find a bit disgusting.
It was at 14 that things started to get bad as I got a really good internet connection. I went from masturbating once a week to masturbating every day and then to masturbating multiple times a day. All with porn.
At 15 I got my first girlfriend. After dating her for about a year we started to become sexually active. The funny thing is that she was the one that took the initiative. I was so hooked into porn that, although I got excited when we kissed or hugged, it just never occurred to me that we could have sex (It's a shame I could not see that porn was affecting me that much back then, but now I can see how pathetic porn made me at that time). Sex was fine with her but we split up after a couple of months after we started having sex. I started masturbating even more with porn.
I went to a masturbating machine mode until I was 19 and got another girlfriend. When we tried to have sex I just did not get excited. This was the hardest part of my life I think. She was really cool and stayed with me for about a year. We tried to have sex LOTS of times and we only managed to do it once(The time we managed to do it I was in masturbation abstinence for two weeks). I was so frustrated and depressed that I had to dump her. I went to a stage that I could not trust myself and my body anymore.
So I told everything to my folks and they were very supporting. I saw an urologist and everything was ok with me so he sent me to a sex psychologist. I did not like it at first(it's not easy to tell a woman you are seeing for the first time that you are a porn addict), but after some struggle I can say that she was one of the best things that have ever happened to me. She really changed my life and I started masturbating a lot less. My life improved in all areas. I started going to gym and got fit. My friends and family started liking me more and I went from the worst student of my class to become the top one.
At 21 I got another girlfriend. I really wanted to have sex with her but I did not want to screw everything up again. So I just told her everything that had happened to me since the beginning of our relationship and she was very supportive. I really felt prepared to have sex with her, but I did not want to rush. She was ok with that and so we just started very slowly. Our first few tries failed because I got a little nervous, but soon we managed to do it and it was heaven. We had a great sex life during our relationship. After one year we split up again and I went back to porn.
It was reasonable, though. I was aware of the risks of porn and did not watch so often. I hooked up with a couple of strangers and sex was fine. Though I did not get erections from flirting and kissing them, sex was fine.
At 23 I got another girlfriend (who is still with me). For some strange reason this girl makes me really hard, even just seeing her or listening her voice can get me hard.(much harder than every one before, even though I still see porn). I did not get excited when we tried sex for the first time, though. But from our second time and onward it was the best sex ever. Our sex life is really great and we have great quality sex every time. BUT I was stupid to continue watching porn.
For some reason I continued watching porn. More kinkier porn and really things that I really did not like it: e.g CD/TV porn.
Then sex was still great with her but sometimes I just was unable to orgasm.
I am abroad for quite some time now(will only see my girl on December, and then probably only next September) and I decided to Fully reboot forever. I believe I was partially rebooted when I started to go the psychologist, but now I am going for a Full Reboot. Porn is banned.
I want to fully reboot to become a better man. I know I can't stand to watch any porn at all or I will become addicted again. I do not want this. Porn is not a part of my life from now.
I will start to go to the gym again. I will socialize more. Unfortunately I can't get rid of my computer because I work with it. But from now on I will only use it in public places and I will have porn blocking software. I will post updates here (probably daily).
I am going to do hard mode until I go back to my country. I am not sure what I am going to do when my girl comes to visit me, though. I think I will probably have sex with her, but I want some opinions on that.
I could use a accountability buddy if anyone is interested.
Any tips, comments, feedback, help or asking for help is welcome.