TheFuture1
Member
Hello,
I first posted on here over two years ago. I'm only just now truly restarting my recovery. I'm 39 now, never been in a relationship, made some terrible decisions about my finances - mostly not directly related to my acting out but rather because of the brain fog due to the addiction.
I know I need to get a handle on this now! I want to go into my 40s with some recovery. I've had blockers set up for a good few weeks now. I know I would have relapsed if I didn't have the blocker on. I've still been having slips with fantasy and looking at things on social media but I usually come back to reality because I know I can't take it any further due to the blocker.
I think I'm having withdrawal symptoms. Feeling tearful, agitated and fearful. Also feeling so much grief about what I've lost by going back into denial for so many years I'm committed to getting through it though. I've not really looked into how to remove the blocker yet so I think that shows that I'm committed.
I'm done with denial. I'm also done with defiance. Feeling out of control is not a good feeling so it was easier to pretend that I didn't have a problem with porn, or to pretend that I was enjoying what I was doing. Admitting I'm not in control of my behaviours is tough on my self-esteem but it's not as hard as the consequences of not dealing with it. I'm a man-child approaching 40. My development as a human being has been stunted. I've lost things that I'll never get back. But I won't let that take away my motivation. My future can still be something and I'm determined to make something of it, even if it isn't the future that it could have been.
So glad that these forums exist. Thanks everyone.
I first posted on here over two years ago. I'm only just now truly restarting my recovery. I'm 39 now, never been in a relationship, made some terrible decisions about my finances - mostly not directly related to my acting out but rather because of the brain fog due to the addiction.
I know I need to get a handle on this now! I want to go into my 40s with some recovery. I've had blockers set up for a good few weeks now. I know I would have relapsed if I didn't have the blocker on. I've still been having slips with fantasy and looking at things on social media but I usually come back to reality because I know I can't take it any further due to the blocker.
I think I'm having withdrawal symptoms. Feeling tearful, agitated and fearful. Also feeling so much grief about what I've lost by going back into denial for so many years I'm committed to getting through it though. I've not really looked into how to remove the blocker yet so I think that shows that I'm committed.
I'm done with denial. I'm also done with defiance. Feeling out of control is not a good feeling so it was easier to pretend that I didn't have a problem with porn, or to pretend that I was enjoying what I was doing. Admitting I'm not in control of my behaviours is tough on my self-esteem but it's not as hard as the consequences of not dealing with it. I'm a man-child approaching 40. My development as a human being has been stunted. I've lost things that I'll never get back. But I won't let that take away my motivation. My future can still be something and I'm determined to make something of it, even if it isn't the future that it could have been.
So glad that these forums exist. Thanks everyone.