Advice for fighting PMO addiction while working remote from home?

maidenless

New Member
I am a recent college graduate. Living alone and working remotely from home. I have been participating in nofap for 5 years now and my highest streak was 1.5 years. I truly believed I overcame my PMO addiction until I graduated and started living alone. Now I can't seem to get more than a 7-day streak :( .

For any of you who are in a similar situation, what helped you? I would also like to start a community thread to support those of us who are living/working from home. Idk if this is the correct way to go about it on rebootnation. I am happy to provide any support or advice on what has helped me as well!
 

Simonly

Member
In short ... discipline.

During the pandemic I was working from home, but using my work's laptop. I won't even dare myself to use the work's laptop for anything other than work. The company I work for has a strict IT policy to protect itself from cyber attack, and Network traffic is monitored. Only authorised software can be used.

The problem came when one's mind starts to "wander". I would be working remotely on a difficult, or mundane piece of work, and if no one else was in the house (my wife works in Health Care and wasn't able to work remotely), and with my personal phone was at hand ... on thing would led to another.

The thoughts, and urges to PMO become more predominate if there was nothing of interest to occupy the brain, so during the day I had set up a strict regime to keep my mind active, and if I got "stuck" at work, I had to take a break and physically separate myself from the laptop, and my phone ... and go for a walk or run.

Post lockdown, there is an option of hybrid working, but for the reason above, I now choose to mainly work in the office.

I am in the stage of recovery where the thoughts, and urges can still sometimes randomly become predominant, but recognising when they do, and having a "plan" readily at hand to to ensure that they are not acted upon is helping me to abstain.

Hope this helps.

... and so onwards we go!
 

maidenless

New Member
In short ... discipline.

During the pandemic I was working from home, but using my work's laptop. I won't even dare myself to use the work's laptop for anything other than work. The company I work for has a strict IT policy to protect itself from cyber attack, and Network traffic is monitored. Only authorised software can be used.

The problem came when one's mind starts to "wander". I would be working remotely on a difficult, or mundane piece of work, and if no one else was in the house (my wife works in Health Care and wasn't able to work remotely), and with my personal phone was at hand ... on thing would led to another.

The thoughts, and urges to PMO become more predominate if there was nothing of interest to occupy the brain, so during the day I had set up a strict regime to keep my mind active, and if I got "stuck" at work, I had to take a break and physically separate myself from the laptop, and my phone ... and go for a walk or run.

Post lockdown, there is an option of hybrid working, but for the reason above, I now choose to mainly work in the office.

I am in the stage of recovery where the thoughts, and urges can still sometimes randomly become predominant, but recognising when they do, and having a "plan" readily at hand to to ensure that they are not acted upon is helping me to abstain.

Hope this helps.

... and so onwards we go!
Thank you. And yeah I am hoping to return to hybrid work soon so I can work in the office.
 
Since ur alone, u should get a pigeon or a cat, this way u not alone anymore, also, block access to that filth completely, through any means, i guess since ur using ur laptop for workin then ur phone is the one who u use to watch the filth, here's a trick
1.Download applock master from playstore( doesnt matter which applock u use, SO LONG AS IT HAS AN **DISABLE UNINSTALL** option)
2. Get into the app put a dummy password for now, it will prompt u for ur email incase u lose ur password, SKIP THAT, u must not have access to ur password at all cost
3. Go into the apps settings and disable *unlock app with fingerprint* and enable *prevent uninstalling*
*important* : problem is that even tho u put the disable installation option u can still uninstall it using ur phone's settings app. This is why we will lock that app using the AppLock master
*important 2* when u restart ur phone, the Applock will take some time before actually blocking access to the apps unless u put in the password and this take us to our 5th step
5. Change ur phone's password(keep ur fingerprint tho), but ur not the one whose going to change it, tell someone whom u trust to change it(someone u trust), this way if u rly wanna watch, u cant restart ur phone and quickly get into ur settings app and uninstall that app. Locking all doors of access.
6. Go back into the applock master and lock the settings App.
7. Put a LONG password of 1's and 0's that u ill forget, this way u cant access the settings app nor the applock anymore.
8. Enjoy, now when u have an urge, u can simply uninstall/disable ur browser app/whtvr has the stuff u wanna watch(as well as playstore cuz obv u can reinstall it afterwards if u dont), wait until the urge goes away, go ask the person who has the password to quickly reboot ur phone and put in the password, so that u can go into the settings app and uninstall the appLock and reinstall the browser or whtvr apps u uninstalled. After that u simply redo the process of downloading the app ect ect.
*important 3* playstore has an option where u can actually deactivate/uninstall apps from it, so disable it when u get an urge as well
Warning ur brain might trick u, so when u get an urge u gotta rush to blocking the apps, before things get worse and ur desires completely take over ur brain.
It would also help if u actually stopped using socialmedia, i uninstalled Instagram and tbh i dont regret
 

maidenless

New Member
Thanks for the great advice Light fetnos! I really do want a pet, but I don't want to pay the pet rent fee ;(. I completely agree that a content blocker is a must. I use an app called "Freedom" and it was a complete game-changer for me. And I did have social media blocked until I got an issued laptop from my company (they block downloading Freedom yet they do not block pornography lmao). However, today marks a week that I've been clean and I feel like I'm not going back this time.
 
Limiting your screen time will help. Also make sure you have a healthy work/life balance (easier said than done when working remotely or from home). For instance, once you log off from work, go for a walk. Think of it as your "commute home". Once you're back home, don't turn on your computer for the rest of the evening. That way, you have a physical and mental break from work and your computer screen and of course the temptation of porn.
 
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