Question for people who have been here before

[Efeg1234]

Background:
I’m in my early thirties and have struggled with porn addiction for a long time. I started watching porn in middle school, but for whatever reason, it’s picked up in the past year or two. I’ve had a few seven day streaks but have always relapsed. I’m in a serious relationship and one of the worst effects of porn is in my desire to have sex with my partner. I’m attracted to her and the sex is pleasurable, but I often view it as more of a chore or something I just need to get out of the way.

Unsurprisingly, we’ve been struggling with our sex life. All along I knew what the issue was (porn) and last week I finally got the courage to tell her. She was incredibly supportive and is helping me through this process.

Today is my seventh day without porn. I’ve definitely been tempted at times but haven’t relapsed and am feeling pretty good about continuing my streak.

Question:
The thing I’m struggling with is that I have even less desire for sex than I did when I was watching porn? I know seven days isn’t very long and my brain is changing, but it’s almost like it’s having the opposite effect of what I’m going for…

 

[Ezel]

I think what you are going through is the flatline phase (dead libido, no morning woods, low motivation, brain fog...)
You don’t need to be worry if you are not facing any urges, flatline is very common, and if you are in it right now then it is actually a good sign. It shows that your body is rebooting itself.

Flatline could last long for a week and during the flatline phase, you may see some opposite effects of Nofap.
Just hang in there, trust the process, and whatever happens don't watch porn.
Remember your purpose of doing the reboot in the first place.
Be strong efeg, and keep pushing my friend...

 

[Efeg1234]

Thanks, man. I’m new to the academic side and wasn’t familiar with the term flatlining. But it seems like it’s exactly what I’m going through

 

[TryingHarder]

Patience! What you're going through is part of the process and completely normal. It's going to take time for all of your brain cells to reset themselves.

 

[Oscar40]

The thing I’m struggling with is that I have even less desire for sex than I did when I was watching porn? I know seven days isn’t very long and my brain is changing, but it’s almost like it’s having the opposite effect of what I’m going for…

The loss of libido is due more to other issues:

psychological
Fault
problems you are having

However, expectations will begin to change as you enjoy interactive sexuality in the future.

The problem with masturbatory sexuality is that it prevents us from knowing what our abilities are when it comes to sharing that sexuality with others. That is why any type of masturbatory sexuality should be carried out in moderation, and much more so when you have a partner or the person is married. This loss of libido is often called "Flatline". To tell the truth, I don't believe in it, but what I could say is that to the extent that this masturbatory sexuality causes us problems in a relationship, we feel guilt and worry. Later, couple problems come, and with them, sexual desire goes away.

From my own experience, I can assure you that the sexual drive returns after a few days of abstinence. The loss of libido is the least of it. It is in fact, a fortune, because it allows us to focus on other things in the meantime. Don't worry about your libido: I have done thousands and thousands of reboots in my life and in all of them, I can assure you, my libido has returned before 90 days. To finish: it goes without saying to be careful with pornography: it is very addictive and attractive, both for us singles and for married people. Handle it sparingly, and if you find that you can't handle it sparingly, unfortunately, it would behoove you to get rid of it altogether.

 

[Fappy]

sounds like a flatline, dont worry its normal and a necessary part of the process. my advice is to embrace it. it shouyld be refreshing not to be constantly thinking about sex and desiring anything sexual, jsut let your cock die for a while and relax. itll be back sooner or later.