Actually you bring up a good point about withholding orgasm. When my wife and I were Rewiring that’s what did the trick. We would fool around. No expectation of erection. If I got hard I would penetrate. The one rule was that I was not allowed to cum.it really depends on several factors buddy but you gotta give us some more details here. If orgasms are likely to send you into a chaser effect searching for more extreme pleasure, then i would say be sure not to orgasm. real sex is nothing like the drug of pornographic novelty so many times (for me at least) sex sent me into a tailspin of seeking a stronger high. It was like eating a piece of fruit after only consuming junkfood non stop. it tasted like crap