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GermanKangaroo
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Hello all. The subject of this blog is a quote from an Austrian poet and I found it to be quite fitting.
Where to begin? I am a 26 year old student living somewhere in Germany. I studied German at university and so moved here to try acquire fluency.
My story with PMO began around the age of 16, and has been a regular habit since. It wasn't until the age of around 21-22 that I began to notice changes in my behavioural patterns and memory. I would become (and still am) easily irritable and moody, my patience and concentration levels became shorter. My anxiety and self-esteem plunged to new lows, and I became more socially awkward to deal with. Even more noticeable was the dramatic change in my short-time memory. Put simply, I have none. I have the memory of a doorknob and am extremely forgetful to the point where I feel as if though I have Alzheimers. Combine this with language learning and you have one hell of a problem. Put simply, I have been learning German for a number of years now and I still feel fucking hopeless in the language.
Yesterday I broke up with the love of my life. Though I would not attribute my addiction to the demise of the relationship, it certainly played a role in how I behaved at times. I have had three serious relationships, and I firmly believe that I had found the perfect person for me. So I am feeling quite low now, especially more so that I know no-one here.
I don't drink, smoke and have always had a healthy lifestytle, so I was at a loss as to understand why these changes were occuring. It wasn't until several years ago, a good friend of mine admitted his problem and showed me the website www.yourbrainonporn.com, that I began to view the habit with more concerned eyes. Though it would be naive of me to point the finger at PMO without having any concrete evidence, I do know that, when I try to 'reboot' or abstain, all the above mentioned symptoms improve. My memory begins to clear up and become sharper, I am much more calmer and rational, and my self-esteem rises. I am less restless and easier to get along with. So I can definitively conclude that PMO has played a crucial role in detrimentally re-shaping my brain.
I have tried, in the past few years, to reboot several times. All unsuccessful, the longest lasting around 50 days. I have decided to suck up my pride and admit that I have a problem, and that I need help dealing with it. All the more so that I am now living in a society where it is MUCH harder to meet and get to know people. Don't get me wrong. I love Germany... but breaking the ice with people here is just fucking difficult and a pain the arse. Combine that with the classic symptoms of PMO and you can end up with a walking disaster.
As one other forum user put it, it is so frustratingly predicatable, yet destructive. I am desperate and angry, that such a seemingly simple habit can have seismic ramifications in all aspects of life. I have so many goals and ambitions, and I have been told that I am an extremely intelligent person and a small part of me believes this, but most of the time I feel so worthless and hopeless.
My goal is to first try and do a 100 day reboot, just before my 27th birthday. That way, I can try put an end to what would be a 10 year habit which has prevented me from living life to the fullest. Wish me luck, and I wish all others the very best of luck; I sincerly believe this is one of the most destructive and not-yet fully understood habits born in the 21st century.
Here is the full quote:
Gro?e Siege wurde durch Mut errungen, gr??ere durch Liebe, die gr??ten aber durch Geduld.
Great victories are achieved through courage, greater through love, but the greatest through patience.
Where to begin? I am a 26 year old student living somewhere in Germany. I studied German at university and so moved here to try acquire fluency.
My story with PMO began around the age of 16, and has been a regular habit since. It wasn't until the age of around 21-22 that I began to notice changes in my behavioural patterns and memory. I would become (and still am) easily irritable and moody, my patience and concentration levels became shorter. My anxiety and self-esteem plunged to new lows, and I became more socially awkward to deal with. Even more noticeable was the dramatic change in my short-time memory. Put simply, I have none. I have the memory of a doorknob and am extremely forgetful to the point where I feel as if though I have Alzheimers. Combine this with language learning and you have one hell of a problem. Put simply, I have been learning German for a number of years now and I still feel fucking hopeless in the language.
Yesterday I broke up with the love of my life. Though I would not attribute my addiction to the demise of the relationship, it certainly played a role in how I behaved at times. I have had three serious relationships, and I firmly believe that I had found the perfect person for me. So I am feeling quite low now, especially more so that I know no-one here.
I don't drink, smoke and have always had a healthy lifestytle, so I was at a loss as to understand why these changes were occuring. It wasn't until several years ago, a good friend of mine admitted his problem and showed me the website www.yourbrainonporn.com, that I began to view the habit with more concerned eyes. Though it would be naive of me to point the finger at PMO without having any concrete evidence, I do know that, when I try to 'reboot' or abstain, all the above mentioned symptoms improve. My memory begins to clear up and become sharper, I am much more calmer and rational, and my self-esteem rises. I am less restless and easier to get along with. So I can definitively conclude that PMO has played a crucial role in detrimentally re-shaping my brain.
I have tried, in the past few years, to reboot several times. All unsuccessful, the longest lasting around 50 days. I have decided to suck up my pride and admit that I have a problem, and that I need help dealing with it. All the more so that I am now living in a society where it is MUCH harder to meet and get to know people. Don't get me wrong. I love Germany... but breaking the ice with people here is just fucking difficult and a pain the arse. Combine that with the classic symptoms of PMO and you can end up with a walking disaster.
As one other forum user put it, it is so frustratingly predicatable, yet destructive. I am desperate and angry, that such a seemingly simple habit can have seismic ramifications in all aspects of life. I have so many goals and ambitions, and I have been told that I am an extremely intelligent person and a small part of me believes this, but most of the time I feel so worthless and hopeless.
My goal is to first try and do a 100 day reboot, just before my 27th birthday. That way, I can try put an end to what would be a 10 year habit which has prevented me from living life to the fullest. Wish me luck, and I wish all others the very best of luck; I sincerly believe this is one of the most destructive and not-yet fully understood habits born in the 21st century.
Here is the full quote:
Gro?e Siege wurde durch Mut errungen, gr??ere durch Liebe, die gr??ten aber durch Geduld.
Great victories are achieved through courage, greater through love, but the greatest through patience.