TheFuture1
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Not sure why but this is on my mind a lot today.
I feel like the chance for a meaningful life has passed me by. I’m almost 40. Never been in a relationship, bored of my job, no real transferable skills. Future feels really bleak. Like I’m just going to wait out my life and cope as best I can.
I remember when I first attempted recovery 10 years ago. It was going well but then these feelings of worthlessness came up. I guess I figured that being an “addict” was better than being useless and I gave up on recovery completely.
More than that, I basically made myself re-addicted. I chose it this time. I keep replaying it. I was getting into a 12-step group and I guess that being an “addict” gave me an identity, community and meaning in my life for the first time. As I started to really recover and focus on my life, I realised that the 12-step group I was in wasn’t working for most people.
I wanted to believe that it worked though - if the 12-step group wasn’t working, i feared it would mean that everything good about me had come from my therapist.
It felt humiliating. She had never been an addict but she understood my problem so well. I loved and admired her but sometimes she made me feel like a lab rat. I’m sure she didn’t mean to. I couldn’t take it and I couldn’t tell her how I felt so I quit therapy.
I just can’t get over it. I threw my life away and chose addiction and I don’t think I can ever get that chance at a meaningful life back.
Finding it hard to hold my head up these days. Hard to really get excited about a future life without addiction when I know that I’ve thrown 10 years away for no good reason. The chances of me ever being in a relationship are pretty low now. The chances of me ever having any success in a job that’s meaningful to me also seem very low.
So all I have to look forward to is a boring, lonely life. It could be worse. I do have things to be grateful for. It just feels like I’ve failed.
I feel like the chance for a meaningful life has passed me by. I’m almost 40. Never been in a relationship, bored of my job, no real transferable skills. Future feels really bleak. Like I’m just going to wait out my life and cope as best I can.
I remember when I first attempted recovery 10 years ago. It was going well but then these feelings of worthlessness came up. I guess I figured that being an “addict” was better than being useless and I gave up on recovery completely.
More than that, I basically made myself re-addicted. I chose it this time. I keep replaying it. I was getting into a 12-step group and I guess that being an “addict” gave me an identity, community and meaning in my life for the first time. As I started to really recover and focus on my life, I realised that the 12-step group I was in wasn’t working for most people.
I wanted to believe that it worked though - if the 12-step group wasn’t working, i feared it would mean that everything good about me had come from my therapist.
It felt humiliating. She had never been an addict but she understood my problem so well. I loved and admired her but sometimes she made me feel like a lab rat. I’m sure she didn’t mean to. I couldn’t take it and I couldn’t tell her how I felt so I quit therapy.
I just can’t get over it. I threw my life away and chose addiction and I don’t think I can ever get that chance at a meaningful life back.
Finding it hard to hold my head up these days. Hard to really get excited about a future life without addiction when I know that I’ve thrown 10 years away for no good reason. The chances of me ever being in a relationship are pretty low now. The chances of me ever having any success in a job that’s meaningful to me also seem very low.
So all I have to look forward to is a boring, lonely life. It could be worse. I do have things to be grateful for. It just feels like I’ve failed.