Pills

[Kubrickian]

Hi there I was wondering if anyone could tell me if taking Viagra or such like would stall any rebooting? I am meeting a girl this week to have a good time with but I never trust it to work without and so stress about it to the point where the messages traveling down my spinal cord are all negative ones! So have kind of incorporated Pills into my sex routine but of course dream about getting back to a stage where I don't need any artificial stimulants! It also makes sex with a condom nigh on impossible without pills and I barely feel anything

 

[OSS]

Boner pills don't work for the worst of cases of PIED but I believe they're definitely a tool that can be incorporated with caution later on in the reboot for some to aid rewiring. In my opinion day 9 is far too early for most to be worried about sex. You can still rewire in other ways; hugging, kissing, oral etc. if you find someone willing to work with you.

If you end up using pills I would suggest tapering off after a few weeks and if at the end of a month or two you can't get hard enough for sex without pills you simply need more time.

 

[Kubrickian]

Thank you OSS your input is very much appreciated! Unfortunately I don't have that kind of long term meaningful partner this is just supposed to be a fun meet! I'm always and always have been worried about sex it has occupied two decades of my life making every other thing pale in comparison in my minds eye

 

[OSS]

No problem

I think viagra is fine for circumstances like these. However, some people need a long term partner to rewire with on a regular and consistent basis. You may get some indication of this within 4 months of porn abstinence (4 months is just a rough ball park figure) but if you haven't noticed any improvements in erection quality you may need a long term partner to rewire with to get you brain building sexual pathways for real women.

 

[Kubrickian]

Again very happy you've taken time to get back to me! I've not been able to settle down as I'm always afraid I'm going to hurt them mentally as I keep finding faults and lusting after others, also my fetishes are too extreme for your everyday girl and I worry that I'll feel I'm missing out on something I want and have tried before and know I shouldn't have to do without, this needless to say makes me a very lonely unfulfilled man, but I'm wondering especially after reading others stories that this may be due to porn too, and with abstinence I may stop searching for the impossible or devaluing something actually potentially great in pursuit of dreams of pornographic realities? Hopefully for its that very task and regaining my ability to have erections easily with girls that propels me down this path! I feel like I need relief more than ever and my minds going crazy lusting after it but if doing this doing without helps me succeed in those two things then it's all more than worth it

 

[jkkk]

I keep finding faults and lusting after others, also my fetishes are too extreme for your everyday girl and I worry that I'll feel I'm missing out on something I want and have tried before and know I shouldn't have to do without

Hey there,

Have hope.

This is about porn. What you are describing (in quoation above) is what porn did to you. And to many of us.

I'm on the same bus as you with regard to that. I kept finding faults with my wife (I'd prefer not to be specific, but you can PM me if you wan't to know) and is still happens on worse days, even though lots of guys find her extremely attractive.

It's so pointless it beggars belief. Yet this is what the addiction does to us - have you read on YBOP about the sensitization and desensitization mechanisms? It's all about that.

I've watched P since a very young age, for a very long time, intensively, and having no real sex or love life as a benchmark. I had massive ED, still have PE due to that. I'm slowly rewiring, slowly.

But hey. There is a better life and it's worth it.

If you want to know where to find comprehensive recovery information, PM me.

J.

PS. How did the fun meet go? Was it fun?