Girlfriend in another country

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Cawboy

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I am a 38 year old man who has not had any luck with the ladies until this month when I finally got myself a 26 year old girlfriend from the Philippines. We are trying to get her to America to visit and we are trying to find ways to keep intimate over zoom calls. we tried pleasuring ourselves for the first time on camera the other day and she was able to get off but I was not able to. Not even close. It was then I realized I had a problem. 20+ years using internet porn and zero girlfriends has gotten me to the point where it took me 30+ minutes to get an orgasm with a screen capture of her and I had to use a porn video to help get me there. So I think a reboot is in order for me.

I was just wondering if it would hurt my progress if I keep masturbating with her on webcam regardless of reaching orgasm? Any other tips on how to keep things spicy with my girl without me masturbating? Would seeing her nude over webcam camera hurt my progress?
 
Blondie

Blondie

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Hi @Cawboy, welcome to the forum.

Congrats on the girlfriend, and that's an interesting question. Obviously, anything real would be ideal. However, since that's out of the option at the moment, I would suggest you do whatever's in your control. Thus, no porn, no masturbation unless with her, and no porn substitutes period. I don't know how often you look at porn or get off, but cutting it out completely will definitely help your situation, although, you'll probably experience a flatline, but that's good because that means your brain is healing itself.

Porn sucks. It will ruin all the fun with actual real and beautiful women in our lives. I also only mentioned masturbation because eliminating it will give you a quicker recovery, however, porn is the problem, masturbation for most of us, is not.

Best to you!
 
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Cawboy

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I masturbate to porn usually once a day. Give myself breaks on weekends And then go at it 2-3 times on Monday. Will change my habits now.
 
GBS

GBS

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Porn has to go.

Welcome, by the way @Cawboy - Once yo realise what porn did to you and you start to fix your brain, all the questions you asked you will be able to answer for yourself. I think a week off from any touching yourself…try it. See how it all feels. If it’s difficult then that’s a sure sign you’re starting to heal. Pain and gain equation.
 
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