i dont get aroused by women at all

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cancandeniz

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hello guys. im gonna try to keep this short as possible as i can. Like most of guys i was with this girl and things have gone as u can imagine (erection was not maintable and no libido). And i discovered this porn thing and i have done 100 days no pmo, meaning no porn no masturbation no orgams at all (i was a heavy porn user since i was 10, daily 2-3 times masturbation with porn and im 23 now.). I was not be able to maintain the erection without porn. After 100 days i tried to do it without porn and yes, my d*ck was working without porn. But the thing is i dont have any urges at all. Like quiting porn was not hard for me. I used to get aroused by girls and porn but last 5 or 6 months i dont have the sex drive. And i masturbated after 100 days of no pmo because i was curious that my d*ck is gonna work or not. it was working and its still working, like im doin every 6 or 7 days without porn but i dont have urge at all against any women. I have gone 3 different urologist and checked my testosterone and blood test. They were all clear also my testo was 9.8 which is sky-high. I have done even penile doppler test which the erection stayed for 15 hours so urogolists should have draw blood from my penis. So my penis is working good. Im also 5 year bodybuilder. Also my diet and lifestyle intended to keep my testo high. I have night erections and morning woods (often it happens but rarely it does not), and also i had no morning woods before when i was abusing porn and masturbation. So its an improvement. But my di*k is not the issue. The issue is my urge does not exist. I want to get aroused by women but i dont. It has been 6 months and still nothing except my di*k working again. So can someone help me through this situation because it kills me. Like bro, i dont want to be asexual. I want to be get aroused by women like i used to. Some people may say its flatline but 6 months of flatline ? idk please someone talk to me.


edit: btw i have not rewired with any partner. one of the reasons is i just dont want to talk any women it feels like meanless because like i said i dont get aroused by any women. the other reason is that i can go hookups like i have that confidence. i can go and talk some stranger. but what i dont have is the confidence in bedroom. If i go with random girl to the bedroom and fail.. i dont want to experience this again. And because of i dont get aroused by any women, i dont want to flirt or think serious about some girls. Like a real girlfriend or marriage thing. This things requires some sexual tension and yeah its not all the thing but one of the important ones. I mean how can u talk someone with passion when i dont have any urge against her. So easily i dont have anyone to rewire. You guys have any rewiring alternates for reel women ?

English is not my main language. Excuse for my mistakes.
 
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KetchupDrool

KetchupDrool

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cancandeniz said:
i dont want to be asexual. I want to be get aroused by women like i used to.
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Welcome to the forum @cancandeniz. As you've experienced, relationships, too, are affected by porn use, which makes sense, right? Too much stimulation can interfere with what scientists call pair-bonding, or falling in love. Mere exposure of too many sexy female images cause men to devalue a real-life partner. He rates her lower not only in attractiveness, but also warmth and intelligence. There are many counts of people thinking they are asexual because of excessive PMO, so you're not alone. I would bet if you continued nofap, your desire for women will return.
 
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pornfreesme

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cancandeniz said:
hello guys. im gonna try to keep this short as possible as i can. Like most of guys i was with this girl and things have gone as u can imagine (erection was not maintable and no libido). And i discovered this porn thing and i have done 100 days no pmo, meaning no porn no masturbation no orgams at all (i was a heavy porn user since i was 10, daily 2-3 times masturbation with porn and im 23 now.). I was not be able to maintain the erection without porn. After 100 days i tried to do it without porn and yes, my d*ck was working without porn. But the thing is i dont have any urges at all. Like quiting porn was not hard for me. I used to get aroused by girls and porn but last 5 or 6 months i dont have the sex drive. And i masturbated after 100 days of no pmo because i was curious that my d*ck is gonna work or not. it was working and its still working, like im doin every 6 or 7 days without porn but i dont have urge at all against any women. I have gone 3 different urologist and checked my testosterone and blood test. They were all clear also my testo was 9.8 which is sky-high. I have done even penile doppler test which the erection stayed for 15 hours so urogolists should have draw blood from my penis. So my penis is working good. Im also 5 year bodybuilder. Also my diet and lifestyle intended to keep my testo high. I have night erections and morning woods (often it happens but rarely it does not), and also i had no morning woods before when i was abusing porn and masturbation. So its an improvement. But my di*k is not the issue. The issue is my urge does not exist. I want to get aroused by women but i dont. It has been 6 months and still nothing except my di*k working again. So can someone help me through this situation because it kills me. Like bro, i dont want to be asexual. I want to be get aroused by women like i used to. Some people may say its flatline but 6 months of flatline ? idk please someone talk to me.


edit: btw i have not rewired with any partner. one of the reasons is i just dont want to talk any women it feels like meanless because like i said i dont get aroused by any women. the other reason is that i can go hookups like i have that confidence. i can go and talk some stranger. but what i dont have is the confidence in bedroom. If i go with random girl to the bedroom and fail.. i dont want to experience this again. And because of i dont get aroused by any women, i dont want to flirt or think serious about some girls. Like a real girlfriend or marriage thing. This things requires some sexual tension and yeah its not all the thing but one of the important ones. I mean how can u talk someone with passion when i dont have any urge against her. So easily i dont have anyone to rewire. You guys have any rewiring alternates for reel women ?

English is not my main language. Excuse for my mistakes.
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Of course. That means that you have the ability to get excited, but you don't have a libido. Libido and arousal are two different things. Libido: interest in sex Arousal : the physical response of your body (erection)
 
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cancandeniz

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KetchupDrool said:
Welcome to the forum @cancandeniz. As you've experienced, relationships, too, are affected by porn use, which makes sense, right? Too much stimulation can interfere with what scientists call pair-bonding, or falling in love. Mere exposure of too many sexy female images cause men to devalue a real-life partner. He rates her lower not only in attractiveness, but also warmth and intelligence. There are many counts of people thinking they are asexual because of excessive PMO, so you're not alone. I would bet if you continued nofap, your desire for women will return.
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thanks for ur answer.
pornfreesme said:
Of course. That means that you have the ability to get excited, but you don't have a libido. Libido and arousal are two different things. Libido: interest in sex Arousal : the physical response of your body (erection)
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so i dont have libido for 6 months. what can i do ?
 
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pornfreesme

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cancandeniz said:
thanks for ur answer.

so i dont have libido for 6 months. what can i do ?
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The reason for this situation is that you unfortunately became a heavy user of pornography very early in life. You yourself confess here that you started PMO at the age of 10. That means that because you have been a heavy user from a very young age, you must now try to figure out what your true libido and tastes are outside of the frivolous and empty virtuality that PMO offers.

You should try to find out what is your trud libido my friend
 
Beautiful1973

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Welcome to the forum @cancandeniz
I echo what the other guys have said, you are not only rewiring your brain, you are also clearing your mind, they are two different things.
Yesterday I went to a meditation at a Buddhist Temple, it was so good, I have been struggling for a while to clear my thoughts during meditation and needed some guidance. One thing that stuck out to me, is our mind isn’t in our brain or head, it’s in our heart space….. this was really powerful!
I would encourage you to look into meditation and mindfulness to help clear those old thoughts you might be holding on to, thoughts around performance, no libido, even feelings of being broken.
BTW I’m not a porn addict, I’m a partner (ex), so I come at this from a different angle.

Good luck with your journey 😊
 
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cancandeniz

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Beautiful1973 said:
Welcome to the forum @cancandeniz
I echo what the other guys have said, you are not only rewiring your brain, you are also clearing your mind, they are two different things.
Yesterday I went to a meditation at a Buddhist Temple, it was so good, I have been struggling for a while to clear my thoughts during meditation and needed some guidance. One thing that stuck out to me, is our mind isn’t in our brain or head, it’s in our heart space….. this was really powerful!
I would encourage you to look into meditation and mindfulness to help clear those old thoughts you might be holding on to, thoughts around performance, no libido, even feelings of being broken.
BTW I’m not a porn addict, I’m a partner (ex), so I come at this from a different angle.

Good luck with your journey 😊
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thanks for ur answers. i do meditation daily 5 times for 2 years. It helps me a lot. Im indepted to the god for giving me this chance. Im not depressed or having anxiety about this situation. Im just inquisitve that my libido will return or am i broken for eternally and became asexual ?
 
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pornfreesme

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cancandeniz said:
Im not depressed or having anxiety about this situation. Im just inquisitve that my libido will return or am i broken for eternally and became asexual ?
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You should to read this article. I recommend

www.yourbrainonporn.com

Am I asexual?

If you grew up on watching all kinds of porn & getting hooked on screen sex, you may not respond much to a real person. This can cause massive confusion.
www.yourbrainonporn.com www.yourbrainonporn.com
 
Red Moon

Red Moon

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Beautiful1973 said:
Welcome to the forum @cancandeniz
I echo what the other guys have said, you are not only rewiring your brain, you are also clearing your mind, they are two different things.
Yesterday I went to a meditation at a Buddhist Temple, it was so good, I have been struggling for a while to clear my thoughts during meditation and needed some guidance. One thing that stuck out to me, is our mind isn’t in our brain or head, it’s in our heart space….. this was really powerful!
I would encourage you to look into meditation and mindfulness to help clear those old thoughts you might be holding on to, thoughts around performance, no libido, even feelings of being broken.
BTW I’m not a porn addict, I’m a partner (ex), so I come at this from a different angle.

Good luck with your journey 😊
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" One thing that stuck out to me, is our mind isn’t in our brain or head, it’s in our heart space "

That was beautiful. Care to elaborate ?
 
Beautiful1973

Beautiful1973

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Hey @Red Moon, thanks….. it’s actually not that easy to explain, it’s a budhiest practice…. what I can tell you is I have been in the holistic realm career wise for 17 years, also practiced yoga, but have always struggled with meditation.
When the Monk (how cool is that) took us through the guided meditation, she focused on our mind being in the heart space and clearing all the thoughts…… and it’s the first time I have ever been able to get into deep meditation, the thoughts cleared and there was just space…… sorry that probably hasn’t answered your question. But if I find more theoretical info, I’ll post it😊
 
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