Ok so actually feels quite good so far. Have had normal sex with girlfriend and have no looked at porn over the weekend. All good. However already have that little feeling of restlessness and distractibility and my head is starting to tell me - I know what will fix this.
I can feel the addiction. Sitting at work and have pulled myself back from a few threads I was following via facebook that seemed totally harmless, but its that random clicking and following links that eventually always leads to that same place. So instead of following those links
I thought I would write on here.
I am 27 years old and have been addicted (without realising it) to porn for a long I am not sure exactly when I started but it has been going on fro as long as I have had access to a laptop. I am also a recovering crack/heroin addict. I have been clean from all mind altering substances for just over two years now.
The times spent using I had no real interest in porn (or sex or anything besides getting high tbh) but every time I would get clean it would be one of the things I look forward to the most, much more than real sex. I would be like well I cant get high but at least I can look at porn! I didn't see any problem with it and was always justifying myself thinking, if i'm not sticking needles in myself then who cares. Well after two years clean I have realised I care! It is exactly the same feeling as drug addiction. My frontal cortex struggling with the rewired reptilian bit of the brain. No matter how much I may rationally want to stop looking at porn it will eventually be overtaken by the notion that this time it will be different and that I am justified in doing it again. But in the same way as drugs I need more and more to get the same hit. So end up with morphing taste in porn, which has gotten to the extent I feel real shame and guilt after every time. Starting off a familiar patter of self hatred and self obsession.
What I have come to realise though is that this addiction has lasted longer than any of he drugs and is so far almost harder to beat. I found that the only way to stop the drugs was via a program and outside help. Most importantly forming a relationship with a higher power or God or whatever you would like to call it.
So I see this forum as the outside help. YBOP has taught me a lot about the nature of this addiction and reading your stories has inspired me, and given me hope that this is going to be worth it. As I see it I can either stop or slowly lose that connection to God and eventually pick up drugs again. I am pretty sure that if I do that I will die. So in a very real sense this is a life and death mission to get my soul back!
On a positive note in a few short days feel more confident, love myself a little more and feel more connected to reality. I am excited to see what this reboot can do for my thinking. Loving the gym at the minute, and keeping active in general. I think all that helps - that and trying to connect with you guys on the same mission as me!
Anyway sorry for rambling but seemed like a better option that random clicking. Wishing you all the best on your respective journeys.