Psychological ED//foot fetish

[Despair]

Hello!
I am writing this ,because i do not know what to do at this point and i have been feeling like the world is crashing onto me for the last 2-3 years.
I am 19 years old and i have a massive foot fetish ,since long before porn.I discovered ass dancing girls videos at 11 years old,and at 12 i ve found feet POVs.Since then i masturbated A LOT.For the last half year it got me to foot cuckolding video povs,a thing i am really ashamed of.
The problem is,I am a virgin,because i am not able to get hard for my gfs vagina,and for some time not even her feet.I get half erections for footjobs.I went to the doctor,and he told me i am perfectly fine and the only cause may be pshychological,but i do not know what to do and where to start ,because i can't find anywhere a situation like mine.
I can't put in words how hard it is to me and on how many parts of my life it affected ,as i am no longer happier in my relationship because of this,i feel like i am always going to be alone and so on...I have no problem in talking to girls,and getting them to like me.The only problem seems to be in my pants..
Anyone had a similar experience and would like to share?

 

[TipToe40]

Hello!
I am writing this ,because i do not know what to do at this point and i have been feeling like the world is crashing onto me for the last 2-3 years.
I am 19 years old and i have a massive foot fetish ,since long before porn.I discovered ass dancing girls videos at 11 years old,and at 12 i ve found feet POVs.Since then i masturbated A LOT.For the last half year it got me to foot cuckolding video povs,a thing i am really ashamed of.
The problem is,I am a virgin,because i am not able to get hard for my gfs vagina,and for some time not even her feet.I get half erections for footjobs.I went to the doctor,and he told me i am perfectly fine and the only cause may be pshychological,but i do not know what to do and where to start ,because i can't find anywhere a situation like mine.
I can't put in words how hard it is to me and on how many parts of my life it affected ,as i am no longer happier in my relationship because of this,i feel like i am always going to be alone and so on...I have no problem in talking to girls,and getting them to like me.The only problem seems to be in my pants..
Anyone had a similar experience and would like to share?

You are overstimulating yourself dude. You have to dry out. You’ve conditioned yourself to only like the foot fetish thing and nothing else. The only solution is to get away from that as best you can. Stop watching those kinds of porn videos and try to stay away from images of feet. Try to not sexualize feet. I know fetishes are a tough thing to conquer but it is very possible. One of my best friends had a major foot fetish all of his life too but he has all but gotten rid of it by changing the way he thinks if feet along with avoiding triggers. But the biggest thing is understanding of the fetish and fetishes in general. That includes porn addiction if that’s also a problem of yours because that absolutely fuels it. I read a book called “Your brain on porn” and it talks about “unnatural affections”. That’s what you’re dealing with. I highly suggest getting that book. I heard it was also in ebook form as well. It’s a game changer. You don’t wanna be a lonely guy not able to have actual sex with a real women and enjoy her for who she is. You just don’t know how to do it yet but I have faith in ya. You will get there. It just take dedication and time. I promise you that it will be like night and day when you become a sexually healthy guy. And women deserve to have a sexually healthy mate too.

 

[TipToe40]

Hello!
I am writing this ,because i do not know what to do at this point and i have been feeling like the world is crashing onto me for the last 2-3 years.
I am 19 years old and i have a massive foot fetish ,since long before porn.I discovered ass dancing girls videos at 11 years old,and at 12 i ve found feet POVs.Since then i masturbated A LOT.For the last half year it got me to foot cuckolding video povs,a thing i am really ashamed of.
The problem is,I am a virgin,because i am not able to get hard for my gfs vagina,and for some time not even her feet.I get half erections for footjobs.I went to the doctor,and he told me i am perfectly fine and the only cause may be pshychological,but i do not know what to do and where to start ,because i can't find anywhere a situation like mine.
I can't put in words how hard it is to me and on how many parts of my life it affected ,as i am no longer happier in my relationship because of this,i feel like i am always going to be alone and so on...I have no problem in talking to girls,and getting them to like me.The only problem seems to be in my pants..
Anyone had a similar experience and would like to share?

I forgot to add that you need to see a sex addiction counselor asap because they are experienced with this.

 

[Despair]

You are overstimulating yourself dude. You have to dry out. You’ve conditioned yourself to only like the foot fetish thing and nothing else. The only solution is to get away from that as best you can. Stop watching those kinds of porn videos and try to stay away from images of feet. Try to not sexualize feet. I know fetishes are a tough thing to conquer but it is very possible. One of my best friends had a major foot fetish all of his life too but he has all but gotten rid of it by changing the way he thinks if feet along with avoiding triggers. But the biggest thing is understanding of the fetish and fetishes in general. That includes porn addiction if that’s also a problem of yours because that absolutely fuels it. I read a book called “Your brain on porn” and it talks about “unnatural affections”. That’s what you’re dealing with. I highly suggest getting that book. I heard it was also in ebook form as well. It’s a game changer. You don’t wanna be a lonely guy not able to have actual sex with a real women and enjoy her for who she is. You just don’t know how to do it yet but I have faith in ya. You will get there. It just take dedication and time. I promise you that it will be like night and day when you become a sexually healthy guy. And women deserve to have a sexually healthy mate too.

I do have to mention that in the last 6 months i have been in a fight with myself to quit porn,and i did it a few times,and got back to it in moments of weakness.But now it is not a problem anymore,it may be a little hard,but waaay easier than 6 months ago.I watched the reeboot video and i wanted to know if it is enough to just quit porn and only try having normal sex,so i can condition myself that vagina equals sexual relief.

 

[KetchupDrool]

Hello!
I am writing this ,because i do not know what to do at this point and i have been feeling like the world is crashing onto me for the last 2-3 years.
I am 19 years old and i have a massive foot fetish ,since long before porn.I discovered ass dancing girls videos at 11 years old,and at 12 i ve found feet POVs.Since then i masturbated A LOT.For the last half year it got me to foot cuckolding video povs,a thing i am really ashamed of.
The problem is,I am a virgin,because i am not able to get hard for my gfs vagina,and for some time not even her feet.I get half erections for footjobs.I went to the doctor,and he told me i am perfectly fine and the only cause may be pshychological,but i do not know what to do and where to start ,because i can't find anywhere a situation like mine.
I can't put in words how hard it is to me and on how many parts of my life it affected ,as i am no longer happier in my relationship because of this,i feel like i am always going to be alone and so on...I have no problem in talking to girls,and getting them to like me.The only problem seems to be in my pants..
Anyone had a similar experience and would like to share?

It's clear from countless reports that it's not uncommon for porn users to move from genre to genre, often arriving at places they find personally disturbing and confusing, you're not alone in this. One possibility for your fetish is boredom or habituation while meeting the developing adolescent brain, for instance, you stated you started at 11. Teens love novelty, the stranger, the better. Before you know it, you're masturbating with one hand while clicking through foot videos with the other. Both increase sexual arousal with climax, and a new association imprints on your sexual circuits.

You are overstimulating yourself dude. You have to dry out.

@TipToe40 is right, you must abstain from any sexual satisfying material, to include your gf's feet.

I can't put in words how hard it is to me and on how many parts of my life it affected ,as i am no longer happier in my relationship because of this,i feel like i am always going to be alone and so on

You may or may not go through the PAWS period (post acute withdraw symptoms). What you're experiencing tells me you are. Inability to concentrate, poor memory, reduced academic performance, depression, increased stress, etc. This is all normal while abstaining from PMO.

May you find success in winning the battle over porn and your life fully restored.

 

[Despair]

It's clear from countless reports that it's not uncommon for porn users to move from genre to genre, often arriving at places they find personally disturbing and confusing, you're not alone in this. One possibility for your fetish is boredom or habituation while meeting the developing adolescent brain, for instance, you stated you started at 11. Teens love novelty, the stranger, the better. Before you know it, you're masturbating with one hand while clicking through foot videos with the other. Both increase sexual arousal with climax, and a new association imprints on your sexual circuits.


@TipToe40 is right, you must abstain from any sexual satisfying material, to include your gf's feet.


You may or may not go through the PAWS period (post acute withdraw symptoms). What you're experiencing tells me you are. Inability to concentrate, poor memory, reduced academic performance, depression, increased stress, etc. This is all normal while abstaining from PMO.

May you find success in winning the battle over porn and your life fully restored.

Thank you,but i also have a question for you and @TipToe40 ,if he knows.
Should i abstain from ANY sexual activity or only porn?
And if i should not abstain from all sexual activity,should i avoid my gf's feet?

 

[KetchupDrool]

Should i abstain from ANY sexual activity or only porn?
And if i should not abstain from all sexual activity,should i avoid my gf's feet?

Many reboot challenges look different and each different from the other. Intermittent use of porn can increase the compulsion to use it. So, bingeing after some time of abstinence can hit you harder, perhaps because of the heightened intensity of the experience. Consistency makes quitting far easier than intermittent bingeing.

Can you have sex during the reboot?
It's up to you. Some people find a temporary timeout from all sexual stimulation gives the brain a much-needed rest and speeds recovery.

Eliminating masturbation during the reboot.
Not necessarily. You can try cutting out porn, porn fantasy, and porn substitutes first. For some people, that is enough to allow a return to balance. Others find that masturbation is a powerful trigger for activating pornographic pathways.