Start losing erection at the time of Penetration

maliksmart

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Hi Friends,
I am male aged 29 year old and married last week. I am still virgin and i have only masturbated. Earlier I had a GF 4 years ago and broke up two years ago. We had indulged in playing with each others body but never had sex. I am addicting to porn deeply and masturbate more than 10 times a week. while masturbating i don't have any problem with erection nor i have faced any nightfall since now. The problem starts after the marriage. It was an arrange marriage where we had neither seen each other nor talked. So basically we were stranger for that time (frankly speaking I was very nervous at the time of entering in room). I was very excited for my wife as we were now ready for starting our sex life. But first night I get to know that she knows nothing about the sexual intercourse (She becomes from an orthodox family). Three or four days passed and still she was not ready to allow me to touch her private parts. And all of sudden her period starts only after 20 days. So I start convincing her about all the thing related to husband and wife. After 6th day of periods I started to touch her vagina and she was a little bit ready for support. I got a full erection and when I tried to insert my penis she start moving and stopping me, after that i felt that i have starting losing my erection and that night i was not able to got erection. So i tried on  next night. After foreplay when i was about to insert she complains of pain and request me to stop, and after that the same thing happens again (after marriage i had not masturbated but due to pain i had to masturbate next morning). She is very innocent and I love her deeply so when ever she starts paining i had stopped. (I have some major family problems that affects me mentally some times ). Some friends suggest me for some medicines, but i do not want to take medicines as they may have some side effects.
Now I want to quiet my habit of watching porn and masturbating. So suggest me some good dieting and solution for a good sexual life.
Thanks in advance.
PS: married on 21 st October and Now wife is not with me for 2-3 months.
 
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Well, to be honest, it's quite hard to provide an answer here. From what I've read, I'd say you guys need first more time to really become intimate. You can't and shouldn't expect having a perfect sex life from the start, all of a sudden.
Give her all the time she needs, let her decide the pace of how things shall go between you two. Given her background, this might take a while - and there's nothing wrong with that.
Also, "losing" your erection when your wife who you love complains about having pains is completely understandable - everything else would be a bit...weird.
Of course it's not helpful to be parted for a while when you're supposed to get to know each other, but anyway...can't change that, I guess.
Be patient and gentle, give her time and room and believe in the relationship you have.

Regarding medicine - I don't really know what is supposed to be of much help here...furthermore, I don't see much sense in any of it.
 
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