I became the caregiver of my sick wife a few years back. Up until then I'd been a regular porn user but at that time my porn use went into overdrive. I couldn't sleep so I used to PMO to help me sleep. The issues became so bad that I'd PMO twice a night, PMO once before bed and once in the middle of the night. I then started watching porn during the day and...you get the idea.
TOO much Porn, too little sleep, more porn, PIED. The PIED became so bad I couldn't get an erection without porn, in the end I only had half an erection when I masturbated. When I couldn't get erect with my wife I got so embarrassed that I gave up porn instantly. Only PMOed once in 10 months. But unfortunately severe ED remains.
My wife and I are now separated due to complications from her illness (she had an affair while I was her carer) and I've struggled through a few relationships and have climaxed once only without a pill. With cialis I have made it there a few times but it's so frustrating.
So here I am on day 1 of my reboot. I'm single again after stepping away from my girlfriend to do this. I can't do it with her as I know I'll just take pills to keep her happy. Let's see how we go.
Day 0: Tried to have sex but failed miserably. I apologised to my girlfriend and said I'll call in a few months when I get my sh*t together. I finally have the motivation to do a reboot.
Day 1: Planning the next few months. Gym, mountain biking, lindy hop dance classes (haha, you've got to try new things) bronze medallion to become surf life saver at our local club. I'm going to make the next few months really challenging and fun!
Day 3: This is probably easier for me than most on this forum as I'm already off P and M. I'm just stopping O altogether to get rid of the ED. I'm simply organising activities every night to prevent me calling girls I know will end up sleeping with me. This is my challenge. For some reason the planets are aligning as two of those girls become unavailable in the last 2 days (I did text them for dates mind you). It's as though the world understands what needs to happen and is helping me out. I'm also focusing on exercising like a mofo.
Day 7: Still look at girls and still want to have sex with them so no flatline yet. I get feeling downstairs that says go get em tiger but I know if I did that I couldn't get erection so that's no use is it. So one week down and lots more to go
Day 11: Had some temptation and was helped by some advice by icanbeatthis. Feeling fortified by the knowledge that I'd be guaranteed 100% regret if I do give in to temptation. This forum rocks. So the choice is now easy - take the hard route to stay the course and live a long life in the future without ED
Day 14: Flatline is in with a vengeance. Where I was fantasising about everyone I met a few days ago, today they can walk safe from my thoughts. Not a pleasant feeling I gotta say but it makes this process easier in a way, no fear of fapping now.
Day14b: OK, something weird happened. Ex wife came over and jumped into bed with me. Second O I've had in 12 months without a pill and this after I posted this morning about how if a girll jumped into bed with me they'd be safe. I'm counting it as a positive as it was as far away from porn sex as is humanly possible. Wasn't fully hard but still got there.
Day 23: Over 3 weeks through and it is getting easier. The only issue I have is regular fantasies that just pop into my head. It usually takes me a few minutes to work out I'm fantasizing and then stop. I often find myself fantasising again a few minutes later and have to stop it again. Happens every morning when I wake up and various times during the day. They're not porn fantasies but are very distracting.
Day 27: Still no major issues although temptation to MO is getting stronger. I'm going through marriage separation and the temptation is strongest when times get stressful or when I'm lonely. Still, I'm seeing improvements so what the hell, onwards we go.
Day 36: Seeing definite progress. Had sex with ex a few days ago. Woo hoo, no cialis required and I came. I feel more settled, less anxious and now quietly hopeful the ED will pass. I've got another 5 weeks now with no hope of sex unless I go searching (it came to me a few days ago) so my plan is to go the 5 weeks and reassess.
TOO much Porn, too little sleep, more porn, PIED. The PIED became so bad I couldn't get an erection without porn, in the end I only had half an erection when I masturbated. When I couldn't get erect with my wife I got so embarrassed that I gave up porn instantly. Only PMOed once in 10 months. But unfortunately severe ED remains.
My wife and I are now separated due to complications from her illness (she had an affair while I was her carer) and I've struggled through a few relationships and have climaxed once only without a pill. With cialis I have made it there a few times but it's so frustrating.
So here I am on day 1 of my reboot. I'm single again after stepping away from my girlfriend to do this. I can't do it with her as I know I'll just take pills to keep her happy. Let's see how we go.
Day 0: Tried to have sex but failed miserably. I apologised to my girlfriend and said I'll call in a few months when I get my sh*t together. I finally have the motivation to do a reboot.
Day 1: Planning the next few months. Gym, mountain biking, lindy hop dance classes (haha, you've got to try new things) bronze medallion to become surf life saver at our local club. I'm going to make the next few months really challenging and fun!
Day 3: This is probably easier for me than most on this forum as I'm already off P and M. I'm just stopping O altogether to get rid of the ED. I'm simply organising activities every night to prevent me calling girls I know will end up sleeping with me. This is my challenge. For some reason the planets are aligning as two of those girls become unavailable in the last 2 days (I did text them for dates mind you). It's as though the world understands what needs to happen and is helping me out. I'm also focusing on exercising like a mofo.
Day 7: Still look at girls and still want to have sex with them so no flatline yet. I get feeling downstairs that says go get em tiger but I know if I did that I couldn't get erection so that's no use is it. So one week down and lots more to go
Day 11: Had some temptation and was helped by some advice by icanbeatthis. Feeling fortified by the knowledge that I'd be guaranteed 100% regret if I do give in to temptation. This forum rocks. So the choice is now easy - take the hard route to stay the course and live a long life in the future without ED
Day 14: Flatline is in with a vengeance. Where I was fantasising about everyone I met a few days ago, today they can walk safe from my thoughts. Not a pleasant feeling I gotta say but it makes this process easier in a way, no fear of fapping now.
Day14b: OK, something weird happened. Ex wife came over and jumped into bed with me. Second O I've had in 12 months without a pill and this after I posted this morning about how if a girll jumped into bed with me they'd be safe. I'm counting it as a positive as it was as far away from porn sex as is humanly possible. Wasn't fully hard but still got there.
Day 23: Over 3 weeks through and it is getting easier. The only issue I have is regular fantasies that just pop into my head. It usually takes me a few minutes to work out I'm fantasizing and then stop. I often find myself fantasising again a few minutes later and have to stop it again. Happens every morning when I wake up and various times during the day. They're not porn fantasies but are very distracting.
Day 27: Still no major issues although temptation to MO is getting stronger. I'm going through marriage separation and the temptation is strongest when times get stressful or when I'm lonely. Still, I'm seeing improvements so what the hell, onwards we go.
Day 36: Seeing definite progress. Had sex with ex a few days ago. Woo hoo, no cialis required and I came. I feel more settled, less anxious and now quietly hopeful the ED will pass. I've got another 5 weeks now with no hope of sex unless I go searching (it came to me a few days ago) so my plan is to go the 5 weeks and reassess.