Yes Viper that's correct, she does get paid per minute for talking to guys. I did actually call her one last time and she was sad that i'd decided not to speak to her anymore, and actually got tearful about it to my surprise. I feel better for having done it, i respect her as a person and feel it was the right thing to do, and it's confirmed for me that my feelings about her was no more than friends. I was addicted to the heavily porn influenced phone sex sessions we used to have, which gave me some incredibly intense orgasms. She's a porn addict too and the excitement of talking to a girl who also gets off on talking about pure filth was highly arousing. We would sometimes watch the same porn clips as we talked and that gave me some mind blowing orgasms which is why i was so hooked.
I'm glad to say that although i still have cravings that i haven't had phone sex with her for over 3 months now and i can feel the addiction waning and can see the harm it was doing to me (and my wallet!). The cravings are weakening and i feel that having spoken to her and explained things, said goodbye and wished her well allows me to really start putting it in the past.
I also accepted in this process that i am a porn addict as well as a phone sex addict and the two activities fed each other. So now i'm giving up porn too...only 7 days in and so far so good, the whole things been a bit of an emotional roller coaster but i'm feeling like i'm starting to get a bit more mental clarity now.
I have to say that this site has been amazing and understanding the science of addiction and how it creates strong addiction pathways in the brain, dopamine highs and desensitisation has been a revelation and a real asset in resisting the urges. It feels very similar to when i gave up smoking and used a similar site for support, so i feel like i kind of know the process but am not being complacent.