FocusIsLove
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So I am a recovering addict, and I regular NoFap forums, but I am here because I know there are more partners of addicts on this forum. my need for help comes from a situation that my sister's husband(which I will refer to as BIL(brother-in-Law)), my BIL's father, mother and cousin.
I am just going to keep it brief to not seem to be gossiping. Basically the cousin lives with the father and mother. The father has been going off the deep end with PMO acting out(caught in public spaces of the house at daytime), also confirmed to be talking to other women and sending them money. The mother doesn't know everything, but also knows something is up(has made sharp remarks towards the father). I talk to my BIL about this, and he isn't sure what exactly to do. What is moral here? Start by informing his mother, confronting the father, or respecting their privacy? Some other option?
I know first hand how much damage porn addiction can cause in a relationship. I lost mine because of it. I know how messed up the mind of an addict is because I am still trying to fix mine. I just don't know. Part of me feels like something should be done, but I know it certainly isn't my place. The cousin and my BIL both feel similar but are also very unsure of which course of action to take. I know it's not my place to act directly, but I'd share any advice I get here with the BIL and cousin, and maybe they find it helpful. If anyone could give me their counsel I'd appreciate it.
I am just going to keep it brief to not seem to be gossiping. Basically the cousin lives with the father and mother. The father has been going off the deep end with PMO acting out(caught in public spaces of the house at daytime), also confirmed to be talking to other women and sending them money. The mother doesn't know everything, but also knows something is up(has made sharp remarks towards the father). I talk to my BIL about this, and he isn't sure what exactly to do. What is moral here? Start by informing his mother, confronting the father, or respecting their privacy? Some other option?
I know first hand how much damage porn addiction can cause in a relationship. I lost mine because of it. I know how messed up the mind of an addict is because I am still trying to fix mine. I just don't know. Part of me feels like something should be done, but I know it certainly isn't my place. The cousin and my BIL both feel similar but are also very unsure of which course of action to take. I know it's not my place to act directly, but I'd share any advice I get here with the BIL and cousin, and maybe they find it helpful. If anyone could give me their counsel I'd appreciate it.