I started watching porn at around 12 years of age. I remember watching it daily into high school, and during high school I watched it almost every night before I went to bed to end the night, sometimes multiple times a day. I lost my virginity at 15 years old and from 15-20 years old I have had sex with 11 girls. I currently now have a girlfriend who I love dearly. She's my first girlfriend that I've been sexually active with. Most of the other times were one night stands or casual meet up sex. At my 19th birthday I've noticed things were changing, sexually and mentally. Here are my list of problems that I have noticed since my 19th birthday:
- The onset of HOCD- I've had intrusive sexual gay thoughts. Thoughts of penis pop into my head when I don't want to have them.These thoughts are nonstop persistent thoughts I do not want to have. I feel no sexual urge or desire to do things with another male, but theirs a constant voice constantly repeating to me that I'm gay. I am not homophobic in the least, I am open minded and believe people should love who they love. But I cannot stop these thoughts. They basically tell me I want to have sex with every male I see, regardless of age or how they look. They are irrational but don't stop. I never escalated into gay porn because it never got me hard. I can't see two dudes having sex, to me it's gross. I need to see a female
- Constant social anxiety (fear that people think I'm gay, or are trying to figure me out)
- Depression
- The inability to stop watching porn. I NEED porn. I believe I use porn as a means to prove to myself that I'm not gay. I know this in turn feeds the OCD cycle, but I CANT stop or go a certain amount of time without looking at porn.
- No erection without porn or having sex. I do get an erection with my girlfriend. However I am talking about fantasy erections. I only get good solid erections with viewing porn.
- Low self esteem- I feel inferior to everybody. I have no confidence in myself. And when I do have confidence in myself in only lasts a few moments or days n than I'm back in the cycle of depression, feeling down, looking at porn.
- I just feel generally weird around everyone. I feel like my life has changed. These gay thoughts won't stop. Even though I'm clearly attracted to women and not men, they do not stop. I don't wish this upon anyone. If I was truly gay I would have no problem accepting it. But I'm not, and the thoughts just won't go away. Sometimes they don't only stop there. I just have absurd thoughts.
The last point I want to make is that: NONE of this ever happened before my 19th birthday. I was completely fine in life before this, I knew who I was, I felt confident in myself and myself sexually. I didn't have social anxiety or HOCD (gay thoughts). That's why none of this makes sense to me.
I also want to mention I was a heavy pot user from 17-20 years old. Can marijuana cause some of this as well. I just need opinions and advice on my story and how I should go about this. Thank you.
- The onset of HOCD- I've had intrusive sexual gay thoughts. Thoughts of penis pop into my head when I don't want to have them.These thoughts are nonstop persistent thoughts I do not want to have. I feel no sexual urge or desire to do things with another male, but theirs a constant voice constantly repeating to me that I'm gay. I am not homophobic in the least, I am open minded and believe people should love who they love. But I cannot stop these thoughts. They basically tell me I want to have sex with every male I see, regardless of age or how they look. They are irrational but don't stop. I never escalated into gay porn because it never got me hard. I can't see two dudes having sex, to me it's gross. I need to see a female
- Constant social anxiety (fear that people think I'm gay, or are trying to figure me out)
- Depression
- The inability to stop watching porn. I NEED porn. I believe I use porn as a means to prove to myself that I'm not gay. I know this in turn feeds the OCD cycle, but I CANT stop or go a certain amount of time without looking at porn.
- No erection without porn or having sex. I do get an erection with my girlfriend. However I am talking about fantasy erections. I only get good solid erections with viewing porn.
- Low self esteem- I feel inferior to everybody. I have no confidence in myself. And when I do have confidence in myself in only lasts a few moments or days n than I'm back in the cycle of depression, feeling down, looking at porn.
- I just feel generally weird around everyone. I feel like my life has changed. These gay thoughts won't stop. Even though I'm clearly attracted to women and not men, they do not stop. I don't wish this upon anyone. If I was truly gay I would have no problem accepting it. But I'm not, and the thoughts just won't go away. Sometimes they don't only stop there. I just have absurd thoughts.
The last point I want to make is that: NONE of this ever happened before my 19th birthday. I was completely fine in life before this, I knew who I was, I felt confident in myself and myself sexually. I didn't have social anxiety or HOCD (gay thoughts). That's why none of this makes sense to me.
I also want to mention I was a heavy pot user from 17-20 years old. Can marijuana cause some of this as well. I just need opinions and advice on my story and how I should go about this. Thank you.