I don't know how you some of you guys do it. My discipline just sucks. The first time I held out on PMO for a little over 3 weeks, I was able to perform and finish with my wife (first time ever btw). She was very flirty with me through the whole time, it kept my mind on her. Ever since, I would go through stretches of a couple weeks, no M or O, but would look at hookup sites on occasion for the fantasy and images. She wasn't teasing/flirting with me like she did. The combo shot me down on subsequent times. A few weeks ago, I was so horny and ached to bust, but I couldn't maintain an erection. I got to a point I sat up, trying to get it hard and just cussed at myself. I was to a point of such frustration; I wanted to give up. I calmed down the next day and I started back, AGAIN, with no PMO. Sure enough, after about a week and a half the lack of discipline hits me and bam, I'm fantasizing about other girls on hookup sites. Last night I tried again to be with my wife. I was ready to go and once I got in, it died. I'm so frustrated right now. I know my goal is attainable. I read your success stories and I see you guys succeeding. My hat is off to you guys. I want that! I want that self-control. I am just so weak. The call to just go back to the old miserable PMO ways is in my head. This struggle in my head is so taxing. Where's the magic pill I can take to make it all go away?
Trying not to give up
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Imagine, every time you want to PMO: Hillary Clinton naked on a cold winter day, softly cooing, 'I love it when you rub my bunions'.
Careful with that, though. You don't want to turn yourself off permanently.
Seriously, there is no magic pill. Look at some of the strategies other guys do. For me, it's working out, just flat walking away from the computer at the first impulse and finding something else to occupy me, and keeping the goal in mind.
Careful with that, though. You don't want to turn yourself off permanently.
Seriously, there is no magic pill. Look at some of the strategies other guys do. For me, it's working out, just flat walking away from the computer at the first impulse and finding something else to occupy me, and keeping the goal in mind.
MarcusSecret
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Yes get distracted with hobbys you enjoy doing. Also use emotional intelligence, whenever u wanna have a go think about the good things that will happen if u dont do it and the bad things that happen when you do it, than get distracted.
ja_br said:
Haha! Great advice!
To the OP - don't get too down on yourself. Becoming a successful rebooter can take some practice at first. Once you get the swing of life without porn, it's easier to leave it behind for good. Keep trying, and start adding stuff to your life. Excercising is great! If you already do it (and have a little free time to do more), try stepping it up in the gym. Maybe get a new book or something. Doing new things helps us fill in the emptiness that can come with pornography addiction.
Thank you guys for the encouragement! You were right, I was beating myself down and I need to stop. Your good ideas has me thinking. I need a diversion for myself that I can access quickly. I think exercise would be great. It's a win- win there! Ok, I can also think of Hillary while I'm exercising... Her bunions will get me if I stop short! lol
Ok, I'm going for another shot at it. Thanks guys!
Ok, I'm going for another shot at it. Thanks guys!