nD86
Member
Hey, let me introduce myself. I'm a 28 year old guy, studying to become a high school teacher.
A friend introduced me to a "nofap" video on YouTube, and the guy talking struck a chord. I wouldn't say I am addicted to PMO; it has been a bigger part of my life in the past. I have a number of personal growth projects - set myself high personal standards (which I don't always live up to), and I have found that as I grow as a person, my need for porn diminishes. It is at a point where I would say I use it maybe once a week; twice at tops. Thing is, I have known for some time it is not something I should do...
PMO has become a methodical, somewhat melancholy activity. It's like the force created by the understanding of its negative side has become stronger than the force of that used to be my motivation, but I still do it, robotically. Every now and again, a quick "let's get it over with" release - knowing full well what how I will feel afterwards. It used to be a big issue: a big personal struggle: "why do I it knowing the ethical implications, knowing how empty it makes me feel?" There was a lot of guilt and shame. Now there's more acceptance. I get my shot, in-and-out, and I wrap up. No hours of searching, no particular preferences...
I feel like I am at a cutting point. It doesn't mean anything to me anymore. I don't need the control it used to give me; I don't need its reassurance anymore. I am not interested in the superficial, fleeting connections it provides, can barely even find anything I find remotely interesting when I browse, but I find myself struggling against the neural coding of fifteen years of habit. Put simply, it's a habit. Just something I "could do" when I have a moment, and I realize I haven't in a couple of days. "Hey, it's out there - it's for free, right? Why not?" I stuff my face with food, smoke from time to time, drink; this is just another one of those things you get to allow yourself to do every once in a while; a quick dopamine boost.
So... a cutting point. I feel like I am close to stopping entirely; like it's continued existence in my life has become an absurdity. By continuing, I invite absurdity in my life; I invite a divide into my personality. Enough with the methodical release every few days. This site has shown me that there is a different way, and that there are others expressing ideas I have always intuited and at times expressed, but lacked the willpower to actively pursue.
I start today. 90 days. Sex, fine - PMO off-limits. Goal: a post a week - a bit of a log - but knowing me, there will always be psychobabble undertones.
Started! Boom!
A friend introduced me to a "nofap" video on YouTube, and the guy talking struck a chord. I wouldn't say I am addicted to PMO; it has been a bigger part of my life in the past. I have a number of personal growth projects - set myself high personal standards (which I don't always live up to), and I have found that as I grow as a person, my need for porn diminishes. It is at a point where I would say I use it maybe once a week; twice at tops. Thing is, I have known for some time it is not something I should do...
PMO has become a methodical, somewhat melancholy activity. It's like the force created by the understanding of its negative side has become stronger than the force of that used to be my motivation, but I still do it, robotically. Every now and again, a quick "let's get it over with" release - knowing full well what how I will feel afterwards. It used to be a big issue: a big personal struggle: "why do I it knowing the ethical implications, knowing how empty it makes me feel?" There was a lot of guilt and shame. Now there's more acceptance. I get my shot, in-and-out, and I wrap up. No hours of searching, no particular preferences...
I feel like I am at a cutting point. It doesn't mean anything to me anymore. I don't need the control it used to give me; I don't need its reassurance anymore. I am not interested in the superficial, fleeting connections it provides, can barely even find anything I find remotely interesting when I browse, but I find myself struggling against the neural coding of fifteen years of habit. Put simply, it's a habit. Just something I "could do" when I have a moment, and I realize I haven't in a couple of days. "Hey, it's out there - it's for free, right? Why not?" I stuff my face with food, smoke from time to time, drink; this is just another one of those things you get to allow yourself to do every once in a while; a quick dopamine boost.
So... a cutting point. I feel like I am close to stopping entirely; like it's continued existence in my life has become an absurdity. By continuing, I invite absurdity in my life; I invite a divide into my personality. Enough with the methodical release every few days. This site has shown me that there is a different way, and that there are others expressing ideas I have always intuited and at times expressed, but lacked the willpower to actively pursue.
I start today. 90 days. Sex, fine - PMO off-limits. Goal: a post a week - a bit of a log - but knowing me, there will always be psychobabble undertones.
Started! Boom!