18 Years Old and Wanting OUT

bronsolino

New Member
Hello,

My first experience with temporary ED came when I was about 14, and during this time i could barely get an erection. I asked my parents and they figured everything would be fine and within a week, I was back to normal. So, I thought nothing of it this time, figuring it would just be a week until the condition passed. Very, very wrong I was...

I have been using high-speed internet porn pretty consistently since the age of 14/15, masturbating about 1-2x a day in that time. I masturbated almost exclusively to one particular fetish during that time. It was like a routine, either when I got up in the morning or right before I went to bed, sometimes both. Recently (about 1 month, late December-late January to be specific) before discovering that I may have a PIED problem, I had been masturbating a bit and viewing pornographic images a lot more since signing up for a social media site (Tumblr) that for some reason had this stuff all over the place. One day, I woke up with weak morning wood, but continued my routine as I figured it was the same old problem explained above. However, over the next few days, I noticed something of a disconnect between my penis and general sensitivity. Just walking around or sitting down, I simply coudln't "feel" it as much as before. Stupidly, I continued to masturbate and view porn to prove to myself that I was still "normal".

Now, I have a revolving door or symptoms that seem to come and go, like hard flaccid and shriveled skin on the penis, but the one that concerns me the most is sometimes my penis will have an "hourglass" shape, where the middle of shaft is significantly smaller and more shriveled than the rest of my penis. It concerns me more because I haven't seen much talk of it in other guys' recovery/reboot stories.

I have a girlfriend currently of about 7 months, but we haven't had any sexual contact below the belt,for either party. We are both complete rookies sexually and I had no issue taking our time getting to that point. Of course, I always believed the notion that masturbation and edging would actually HELP with stamina and lasting power when it came down to a big moment, but obviously this is not true. Now, I am worried that I will not be able to deliver in any manner when we attempt to go beyond kissing/touching, and that is stressing me out to an incredible degree.

I haven't PMO'd in about 2.5 weeks and have drastically cut down use of social media (Twitter, facebook etc) and have completely eliminated any sort of porn websites. Progress is very up and down but most importantly, for me, is recovering as soon as possible.

Thank you for reading my story!
 

bronsolino

New Member
About 30 days in, I dont feel any (or very little urge) to masturbate or watch porn. I just want it to end. The most difficult thing of all this is the hard-flaccid and genital shrinking. How long can i expect to wait for normal flaccid size to return?
 

KongMing

Member
bronsolino said:
About 30 days in, I dont feel any (or very little urge) to masturbate or watch porn. I just want it to end. The most difficult thing of all this is the hard-flaccid and genital shrinking. How long can i expect to wait for normal flaccid size to return?

From what I've observed, it could take at least two more months before seeing progress.  :-\ It's hard to tell for sure though.

Good job hitting 30 days, though.
 

TAKID

Active Member
bronsolino said:
Hello,

My first experience with temporary ED came when I was about 14, and during this time i could barely get an erection. I asked my parents and they figured everything would be fine and within a week, I was back to normal. So, I thought nothing of it this time, figuring it would just be a week until the condition passed. Very, very wrong I was...

I have been using high-speed internet porn pretty consistently since the age of 14/15, masturbating about 1-2x a day in that time. I masturbated almost exclusively to one particular fetish during that time. It was like a routine, either when I got up in the morning or right before I went to bed, sometimes both. Recently (about 1 month, late December-late January to be specific) before discovering that I may have a PIED problem, I had been masturbating a bit and viewing pornographic images a lot more since signing up for a social media site (Tumblr) that for some reason had this stuff all over the place. One day, I woke up with weak morning wood, but continued my routine as I figured it was the same old problem explained above. However, over the next few days, I noticed something of a disconnect between my penis and general sensitivity. Just walking around or sitting down, I simply coudln't "feel" it as much as before. Stupidly, I continued to masturbate and view porn to prove to myself that I was still "normal".

Now, I have a revolving door or symptoms that seem to come and go, like hard flaccid and shriveled skin on the penis, but the one that concerns me the most is sometimes my penis will have an "hourglass" shape, where the middle of shaft is significantly smaller and more shriveled than the rest of my penis. It concerns me more because I haven't seen much talk of it in other guys' recovery/reboot stories.

I have a girlfriend currently of about 7 months, but we haven't had any sexual contact below the belt,for either party. We are both complete rookies sexually and I had no issue taking our time getting to that point. Of course, I always believed the notion that masturbation and edging would actually HELP with stamina and lasting power when it came down to a big moment, but obviously this is not true. Now, I am worried that I will not be able to deliver in any manner when we attempt to go beyond kissing/touching, and that is stressing me out to an incredible degree.

I haven't PMO'd in about 2.5 weeks and have drastically cut down use of social media (Twitter, facebook etc) and have completely eliminated any sort of porn websites. Progress is very up and down but most importantly, for me, is recovering as soon as possible.

Thank you for reading my story!

Did your hard flaccid go away?
 
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jhaveman

Guest
I will parrot what other have said by saying that rebooting the brain will take time.  A misshapen penis could be a blood flow problem.  You should see a urologist as soon as you can.
 

Bibbity

Active Member
Also keep in mind that sex is about an emotional connection between two people not "staying power and stamina".  I say this because I see a lot of men getting their sexual education from porn which is all about pounding a woman senseless until you ejaculate.  Perhaps educating yourself on the true and real act of sex will help you when the time comes.  Good luck :)  you are doing great so far!
 

bronsolino

New Member
Hello all,

Happy to report that I have gone over 100 days with no P,M, or O, but wanted to ask a few questions on the NoFap process.

1) Is it normal for my flaccid penis to appear smaller and more "lifeless" than before the realization of porn induced ed? Why does the flaccid state of a penis change when not aroused? I am concerned it is some blood flow issue, despite all of my recent blood tests showing nothing to be wrong.

2) Would masturbating (without fantasy) potentially be beneficial at this point in the process?

3) A little odd, but was the sensation of ejaculating after such a longtime painful?

Thank you deeply for the tips and tricks learned in this community, and here is to all of our recoveries!
 

OldHornyGuy

Active Member
Let's just say that I am quite a bit older than you, but I can feel your anxiety.  Been there, done that.

I was told, oh so many years ago that masturbation was OK, you can make all the sperm you want and you will be learning what helps you get off best.  Wrong, wrong, wrong.

Masturbation warped my sense of what I liked sexually and I ended being a sex addict who could never get aroused by real women.  And I guess I will never know, but it sure seems like my penis, when flaccid, just is not there.  Seriously, about all you can see is the small bump of the head, no shaft at all when not erect.  "Like a frightened turtle." as they once said on Seinfeld.  It is hard for me to recall, maybe it was always sort of like this, but it doesn't seem like it.  I think I beat it to death!

Now, I have only been nofap for 50 days now (out of a lifetime!) and I have not noticed any change while not erect.  I am hoping for my own self esteem that things get at least a little better down there!

And once again, I have to agree with Bibbity.  Please, please, please don't think "porn performance" is what women want.  It is about much, much more than that, and truthfully what most women want (a combination of sex and bonding) is actually much more satisfying than what we men usually do.  Racing to orgasm with someone you don't really know is ultimately completely dissatisfying.

You are young and have so much life ahead of you.  Don't waste it on fantasy!  Go nofap, get your mojo back. Then only have real sex with real women with whom you feel a real connection.

Peace and Be Strong!
 
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