gotta_change
Member
Hi guys!
This is my first time in reboot nation and I want to start my journal. My mother tongue is other than English so please forgive any grammar error or reading difficulties.
I want to tell you my history with porn, which is like saying the history of my sexuality. I started watching porn at little age, I really don't remember when but it could be age 12 or 13. I first started with DVDs and magazines and switched to high speed internet porn when I was around 20, which make the use of porn more frequent and intense. My teenage years were not really happy as I wasn't able to relate to women and I lost my virginity at the age of 24. Before that I used to thing that porn was just filling the gap and that I will leave it when I find a girl. But that proved to be bullshit, as my use of porn increased from that moment. Nowadays I'm single and I'm not really looking for a girlfriend in this particular moment of my life.
I've been with 5 different girls and I always had same issues with sex: difficulty to reach an orgasm without thinking in a porn movie instead of my sexual partner. I could only attain an O after endless masturbation thinking in porn which really alienated my partners. That provoked frustration in both. During all this time, deeply inside of me, I knew that porn was having a negative impact in my sexual life, but I couldn't find a solution to it.
Three weeks ago I read an article about http://yourbrainonporn.com/ and I watched a video by Gabe Deem which totally blew my mind. There was an explanation of what was going on in my sexual life and how porn was ruining it. I felt very happy and I knew that a reboot was necessary in my life. And so I started it.
I spent a whole week without watching any porn and I was feeling good. Some anxiety sometimes but I was full of motivation. I kept reading about how porn affect our minds and they did inspire me. But the seventh night I woke up feeling really anxious and craving for porn very badly. So there I go and start PMOing like crazy and getting myself into a cycle of guilt, feeling bad about my relapse and then using porn again cause I'm feeling bad. I relapsed 4 times in 3 weeks masturbating up to 7 times when I relapse. Last relapse happened today and I feel so sad the whole day wanting to cry and feeling really confused.
My problem is that I can't find the strength to go on without porn. I watched Gabe's videos and I really think that's the way forward but I feel really afraid of the moment of anxiety. I can't tell my parents and I can't tell my friends cause I'm so ashamed of doing so. So that's why I decided to start my journal here where maybe I can find support. I keep an excel file with everyday without porn and the days where I relapse. But as I said, I feel a bit confused and don't know what to do next.
The most positive thing of all these days is that I'm more and more convinced that porn is the one huge factor in my sexual problems ( and maybe in some others problems such as anxiety, sadness and so on). I just need to find the way to purge it from my life.
I hope you guys help me in that way!
Best
This is my first time in reboot nation and I want to start my journal. My mother tongue is other than English so please forgive any grammar error or reading difficulties.
I want to tell you my history with porn, which is like saying the history of my sexuality. I started watching porn at little age, I really don't remember when but it could be age 12 or 13. I first started with DVDs and magazines and switched to high speed internet porn when I was around 20, which make the use of porn more frequent and intense. My teenage years were not really happy as I wasn't able to relate to women and I lost my virginity at the age of 24. Before that I used to thing that porn was just filling the gap and that I will leave it when I find a girl. But that proved to be bullshit, as my use of porn increased from that moment. Nowadays I'm single and I'm not really looking for a girlfriend in this particular moment of my life.
I've been with 5 different girls and I always had same issues with sex: difficulty to reach an orgasm without thinking in a porn movie instead of my sexual partner. I could only attain an O after endless masturbation thinking in porn which really alienated my partners. That provoked frustration in both. During all this time, deeply inside of me, I knew that porn was having a negative impact in my sexual life, but I couldn't find a solution to it.
Three weeks ago I read an article about http://yourbrainonporn.com/ and I watched a video by Gabe Deem which totally blew my mind. There was an explanation of what was going on in my sexual life and how porn was ruining it. I felt very happy and I knew that a reboot was necessary in my life. And so I started it.
I spent a whole week without watching any porn and I was feeling good. Some anxiety sometimes but I was full of motivation. I kept reading about how porn affect our minds and they did inspire me. But the seventh night I woke up feeling really anxious and craving for porn very badly. So there I go and start PMOing like crazy and getting myself into a cycle of guilt, feeling bad about my relapse and then using porn again cause I'm feeling bad. I relapsed 4 times in 3 weeks masturbating up to 7 times when I relapse. Last relapse happened today and I feel so sad the whole day wanting to cry and feeling really confused.
My problem is that I can't find the strength to go on without porn. I watched Gabe's videos and I really think that's the way forward but I feel really afraid of the moment of anxiety. I can't tell my parents and I can't tell my friends cause I'm so ashamed of doing so. So that's why I decided to start my journal here where maybe I can find support. I keep an excel file with everyday without porn and the days where I relapse. But as I said, I feel a bit confused and don't know what to do next.
The most positive thing of all these days is that I'm more and more convinced that porn is the one huge factor in my sexual problems ( and maybe in some others problems such as anxiety, sadness and so on). I just need to find the way to purge it from my life.
I hope you guys help me in that way!
Best