50 days in, then i had sex. QUESTION

tylerdurden

tylerdurden

Member
Hey guys,
This isn?t my first reboot. It?s my third. After my first i relapsed to porn again (54 and 72 days streak). After my second (36 and 89 day streak)  i could sleep with woman again, but was still struggeling with libido and morning wood. So i decided to give it another try, because Gabe Deem explained in his video that his morning wood didn?t came back until the fourth month. And so i?m thinking that i?m not 100% cured yet. 50 days in of No PMO, yesterday i had Sex with with a girl. The sex was good and i orgasmed twice. But now i have a guilty conscience, wheter this was a good idea, because of the set-back that might be caused by this. What do you mean? Is occasionally having sex and orgasm harming the reboot? Or is it even beneficial because of Rewiring? If I would give it another 50 days, would this be comparable with a straight 100 day streak? Or is it crucial, that there is no interruption in form of orgasm?
best regards
 
Fappy

Fappy

Respected Member
Hey mate. Thats quite a streak! A good effort. As for the sex thing, thats probably ok since you didnt have to rely on visual stimulation. The fact that you could perform normally without the use of porn is a great sign of recovery! Keep it going like this mate
 
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nbaballer387

Active Member
Hey tylerdurden, I was struggling myself with the same questions. I did a lot of research on yourbrainonporn.com and the answer is really, it depends on the individual but for most of us sex slows down the recovery.

If you are one of those guys, like me, who started porn from 12/13, got hooked and didnt see any sexual action until much later 18-20, then sex during the reboot is going to slow down the recovery. Good news: It isnt the same as PMO because sex orgasms are the real thing and, hopefully, you are focusing on the sensual aspects of it as well (which is the rewiring). Unfortunately from what Ive read (which admittedly is part real science/ part psuedoscience), orgasms are deeply tied to porn in our brains because of the reward system and how early we started. In our minds porn is sex. Anything involving orgasms(even from sex) will activate those pathways to a certain degree. So the best way for people like myself to recover is to abstain completely 3-5 months then rewire.

The older guys (and some younger) who had real sexual experiences before or around the time they started using internet porn have it easier because the normal sex pathway exists for them already. Their minds know the difference so sex while they reboot helps them strengthen something that was already there. Their addictions are not as bad and they usually recover quicker.

I hate the idea of giving up sex for that long and honestly I haven't made a decision yet. But if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't sweat it because at the end of the day 100 days with 2 sex orgasms or 50 days, a relapse (which this is not), and another 50 is still incredible in terms of recovering. Hope this helped.
 
tylerdurden

tylerdurden

Member
Thanks man, this helped me a lot. Yeah giving up sex is quite difficult, especially because of all the the many opportunities i?m facing. But "are you doing whatever it takes to do". When I have to go 5 months hardmode, then that?s the price i have to pay. I want to to fix this properly, not just 70%, but a 100% so that i can regain my full potential. And there is no easy way out, so i will take the long road now. But in 2015 i will fix this shit!!! BOOOOM
 
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