19 and struggling
- Thread starter bruh
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Well it has been a little over a week since I last PMO. I've been weight lifting and spending a lot of time with friends and family, so that has helped distract myself from looking at porn. Its been hard to fight these urges at night however since it is usually the time where I PMO. I've been also trying to stay away from social media because they can sometimes be a trigger for me. I haven't really felt any improvement or "flatline" but I don't know if this is normal or anything. Hopefully, I can see something improvement in the coming weeks.
marsturm
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Hello bruh, You're doing great!!! For me, the biggest differentiator has been my mindset. Asking myself Do I want to PMO in any way? was a sure way of predicting a relapse, if yes or no. I know it sounds very simple. The urges can come, the question is about my state of mind. Knowing that P doesn't IN ANY WAY equal joy was a big game changer for me. Also, knowing that PMO makes everything worse helped me to come to terms with the fact that P has to go forever. I'm 45 yo and I can assure you that I missed out on so much beauty in my life because of my addiction. No marriage, no relationship that lasted longer than 3 years, feeling cut off from friends and family, PIED big time, sadness, depression, missing out on life in general. You have a beautiful llife before you, man. Just quit P and MO and connect with a nice girl. P will destroy you in the long run. It doesn't give you anything worthwhile and loves to be your master. It's sneaky and secretly laughs about you. (A bit drama here, and it's true.) 
I'm rooting for you, dude, keep truckin' and stay strong. We can do it!
I'm rooting for you, dude, keep truckin' and stay strong. We can do it!
Thanks for the reply and advice Patrick! I feel very motivated this time and feel much better than my previous attempts. Like you said, the mindset is key. Being able to have self control is probably the hardest thing and with the right mindset, my goal can be obtained! Once again thanks for the reply and best of luck to you and your journey!
Actually Marko7776, I didn't know about yourbrainonporn.com or any site until about 6-7 months ago. I actually tried to quit at the time and was actually doing pretty well if i do say so myself. I went about a month without porn but I did O with my gf at the time. Then I kinda fell off the wagon and started back on porn around September/October. This is my second attempt to get my life back on track without PMO.