Or maybe I am in denial?
I have started posting here because Marnia Robinson bullied me into doing so.
I'm a 34 year old guy, I've dabbled in PMO, but when I read Peace Between the Sheets it made too much sense to me and so I felt I had to stop, and I've cut down over the years and I was doing well - I guess about 100 days PMO free - until a period of turblence and stress recently triggered relapase, mostly into P, with a small amount of M and no O.
Looking through these forums I feel like a tourist as if my addiction was ever as bad as the kind of things many people are outlining here then I can't really remember it... maybe it was?
I think at the moment I'm struggling with motivation, you see I'm autistic and basically that means that many of the things that people feel PMO addiction has robbed them of I've never really 'had' as such in the first place (extremely active social life, complete confidence socially, desire for massive amounts of social interaction and so-on).
People might tell me to be less negative, but I resent that... I'm comfortable with my autism and don't see any reason to attempt to conform with 'normality'.
So that's kind of why I feel like a tourist. I don't feel as though I'm struggling in the throes of an intense addiction, I feel like I am extremely lonely and that part of this relates more to issues socialising, meaning that even without PMO it is so difficult to initiate a relationship that it feels virtually impossible.
That's demotivating... and given my natural tendency to prefer my own company anyway, it further brings the sense of just having a PMO habit and living with it.
But yes, I just thought I'd share my story.
I've had 4 in person relationships, 3 of which lasted a matter of months, and one which lasted two years - it was before being aware of my autism, and to my mind meant that I was in a relationship with somebody I was happy to have as a casual, informal 'carer' of sorts... although she, understandable wasn't happy not to have her sexual side fully satisfied.
I've never had any kind of sexual dysfunction as far as I'm aware.
At the moment my habit such as it is basically involves going to sites which are full of P but with social elements, and I'll go and chat in the chat rooms. I would find it hard to quit this as it feels so innocuous.
I guess I should just find other stuff to occupy my time.
I have started posting here because Marnia Robinson bullied me into doing so.
I'm a 34 year old guy, I've dabbled in PMO, but when I read Peace Between the Sheets it made too much sense to me and so I felt I had to stop, and I've cut down over the years and I was doing well - I guess about 100 days PMO free - until a period of turblence and stress recently triggered relapase, mostly into P, with a small amount of M and no O.
Looking through these forums I feel like a tourist as if my addiction was ever as bad as the kind of things many people are outlining here then I can't really remember it... maybe it was?
I think at the moment I'm struggling with motivation, you see I'm autistic and basically that means that many of the things that people feel PMO addiction has robbed them of I've never really 'had' as such in the first place (extremely active social life, complete confidence socially, desire for massive amounts of social interaction and so-on).
People might tell me to be less negative, but I resent that... I'm comfortable with my autism and don't see any reason to attempt to conform with 'normality'.
So that's kind of why I feel like a tourist. I don't feel as though I'm struggling in the throes of an intense addiction, I feel like I am extremely lonely and that part of this relates more to issues socialising, meaning that even without PMO it is so difficult to initiate a relationship that it feels virtually impossible.
That's demotivating... and given my natural tendency to prefer my own company anyway, it further brings the sense of just having a PMO habit and living with it.
But yes, I just thought I'd share my story.
I've had 4 in person relationships, 3 of which lasted a matter of months, and one which lasted two years - it was before being aware of my autism, and to my mind meant that I was in a relationship with somebody I was happy to have as a casual, informal 'carer' of sorts... although she, understandable wasn't happy not to have her sexual side fully satisfied.
I've never had any kind of sexual dysfunction as far as I'm aware.
At the moment my habit such as it is basically involves going to sites which are full of P but with social elements, and I'll go and chat in the chat rooms. I would find it hard to quit this as it feels so innocuous.
I guess I should just find other stuff to occupy my time.