sex during reboot

[Numez]

I'm on hard mode for almost a month now. no pmo mo or o.

my sex is not good. It takes a lot of kissing and pussy licking to get an erection and I lose it after 3-4 minutes. seems like I need to be too controlling and rough to get hard and keep hard. she masturbating my dick or sucking it don't get me hard and I feel bad about it.

is it okay to keep up with this "sex" once a week routine during reboot?

I see some progress from day 1 till now but its small progress, just a litle better feeling and maybe 1-2min longer errection.

I still can ejaculate during the time I have erection but I don't.

 

[Fappy]

I think you can really see how the brain becomes wired to visual stimuli from prolonged porn abuse.
Intercourse with your partner can help the reboot process as you are rewiring your brain to respond to touch and intimacy. I used to have a massive problem with that, but yeah as you said since stopping porn you can see it getting better, albeit slowly.
I would have to jerk with lube for a long time while kissing my wife or fingering her arse just to get it up enough to penetrate. Now after a break from porn it shoots up!
Stay focused mate, on the road to recovery

 

[PresidentCoolidge]

Maybe just stick to kissing and cuddling. If you are able to get an erection you can try kareeza, which is a type of sex that is more slow and gentle where you do not orgasm. I haven't tried it but I plan on doing it when I get the chance. This process kills two birds with one stone, because it rewires the brain for a real partner while maintaining sensitivity.

 

[Numez]

so struggling to get and maintain erection with real breathing partner is bad?

I kiss every part of her body, I finger her lick her. I love all that but fucking and she giving me bj is what I want too.

should I tell her to fuck someone else cause I'm not ready yet?

 

[PresidentCoolidge]

I wouldn't tell her to fuck anybody else. I would just let her do whatever she wants while you do whatever you want. As long as you guys haven't had the "exclusive talk" then you really don't owe anything to the other person.

 

[Bspy107]

wow... I am literally having the same problem as well im in at about a month now (im 19 btw). i was with my FWB who knows about my problem and she agreed to help me through this problem. the first time we did anything we were in the woods and well she doesnt like making out but i told her that was the only way i can get it up and after 20 seconds of kissing i was hard as a rock. she doesnt like anybody going down on her but we agreed on Dom/Sub later today so im gonna go down on her and see if anything will go up hopefully it will. but also i have a question has anybody come across increased acne because i broke out and it is bad like bad...

 

[Numez]

thanks for all the response guys, I really appreciate it.

im still not quite clear about if it is okay to do oral sex and keep trying intercourse during reboot? once or twice a week? no orgasm.

I have problems with erections and i dont even use condoms.

 

[Numez]

I just had sex yesterday for NYE and it was awesome compared to previous ones.

I managed to have penetretable erection for almost an hour.

still I lack feeling and harder erections but I can fuck! I almost came twice while she was giving me bj, I had to back off!

I think I'm not gonna stop having sex during reboot!